Two days ago, I was in the car with my friend on the way to listen to a book reading. As we drove, my friend commented on how observant my four-year-old son is. It immediately sparked some stories about conversations we have when he’s riding in the back seat of the car. Like on a recent frosty morning when we passed a baseball field and … Continue reading Creatively Seeing
So I just got back from a 2-week trip to Hong Kong. A quick ding dong to say how do you do. I was there to organise several things related to my license that needed sorting. It was the first time I’d gone back since I left my former lover in difficult circumstances over a year ago. It was a very interesting experience indeed. What … Continue reading A Hong Kong Ding-Dong
The other day I landed on a blog post and as I scrolled down to add a comment, I saw that there were already 41 comments. That set me back on my heels. What else could I possibly add to the conversation? Funny how a number can spark self-doubt. It’s like joining a big group of people at a party that have already been talking … Continue reading The Art of the Comment
What On Earth Are You Thinking? What is External Self-Awareness? Most people think about self-awareness the same way they do sex. They believe they’re great at it when, in reality, no-one knows where on God’s green earth the G spot is (or that there even is one). One of the major components for building self-awareness is understanding what other people honestly think about us (including our ability … Continue reading The Three Areas of Self-Awareness: What On Earth Are You Thinking?
There’s a type of tree that’s planted all over Singapore. It’s known as the rain tree because of its iconic umbrella shape. Not only is it incredibly striking to look at, the sprawling canopy provides the perfect respite from the oppressive heat we experience here year-round. It’s planted extensively throughout Singapore for this reason. It has fast become one of my favourite trees. Not just … Continue reading Nurturing Our Roots
So my kids have started doing this thing. Every evening before bath time – after we take their clothes off before they get into the tub – they run around the apartment like crazed feral wild cats. Screaming and laughing. Pure unadulterated joy. It got me thinking about the clothes we wear, metaphorically speaking. A kid doesn’t question why we walk around with clothes on … Continue reading The Joy of Running Around Naked
After the podcast of Billy Osogo on Ubuntu, I decided to search how people around the world show kindness, whether it comes from caring tradition or generosity. This may inspire you to show kindness to yourself or someone else today. Common to many cultures in Sub Saharan Africa, this concept was made popular by South African leaders Nelson Mandela and Archbishop Desmond Tutu. This word … Continue reading 10 Caring Traditions from Around the World
How do you think of your teammates, coworkers, or those close to you? Do you see them as a few welcome acquaintances that you meet with a few times per week? Or are they something more, a necessary support group you can’t live without? In many areas of our lives, we may hear a term, but we aren’t always clear on what it means to … Continue reading Finding Your Tribe
The other night my brother, Jay, and I were out to dinner with his wife and another friend. Jay and I were sitting next to each other and my friend said it was funny to watch us with our synchronized big smiles, expressiveness, and gesticulating. We were talking about writing, something neither of us do professionally. My brother is a marketing guru and I’m an … Continue reading Is Being A Writer an Inherited Trait?
Recently I woke up early one morning knowing that I had to apologize to a friend. In my tiredness the night before, I had conflated my feelings about two different things going on in my life and unnecessarily laid it at my friend’s door. In my apology, I borrowed some wisdom from my father, “My dad always said it was better to eat crow early … Continue reading Podcast Episode 10: On Step 9, Apologies and Healing
It occurs to me that I’ve gone through something of a divorce over the past year or so. Only, it’s not been to a person but a place. Of course, there have been others. York for one. We had a few difficult years together. Then there was Oxford where I went to university. That was a nonstop party. And I’ve certainly sowed my wild oats. … Continue reading A Singapore Fling
Hi everyone, I hope you all had an awesome week. I had a good but tiring one. The most prominent topic in my mind this week has been how much close relationships mean adaptation. My new and first cat reminded me this. Before I got him, I was thinking that he would come home and just hang out. I would just live as I did … Continue reading Adapt and Relate
Hello! How was your week? Hopefully, you had a peaceful week! I have been thinking about this lately (well, I actually think a lot about this always, but more so recently): Why are the people in our lives in our lives (friends or romantic interests)? Why do we attract them? Or how do they end up in our lives? I am a huge advocate of … Continue reading Why do we attract certain people?
Ten years ago, on April 8th, 2011, I met my wife for the first time at a dive bar in Hong Kong called Al’s diner. We immediately hit it off. The evening ended with us dancing to a number of 80’s classics. Despite several jello shots it took me a while to work up the courage to kiss her. I knew she was special and … Continue reading Kissed For The Very First Time
Something I’ve always wondered is why people go back to their ex’s. If it didn’t work out the first time then why should it the next? Is it an act of desperation or merely selective amnesia? If you or they weren’t good enough the first time around, what makes one think they’re good enough now? I used to always say to my friends to never … Continue reading For-get/give – lapse in memory or judgment?
What kind of relationships are the best? The ones in which the two of them are the same? Or the ones in which the two of them are very opposite and they complete each other? Which ones have a better chance in long term and why? We do like when we find someone who appreciates the same things we do and in the … Continue reading Similarity in a Relationship – Reblog
One of my most interested fields in psychology is that of dating and understanding how to find and interact with our romantic partner. There is no doubt that if you are in a relationship or married, that you haven’t been through some sort of emotional or mental rollercoaster with your partner. That’s just part of the process, and more often than not, we resolve whatever … Continue reading The Most Important Thing(s) To Understand About Your Relationship
‘A Lion used to prowl about a field in which Four Oxen used to dwell. Many a time he tried to attack them; but whenever he came near they turned their tails to one another, so that whichever way he approached them he was met by the horns of one of them. At last, however, they fell a-quarrelling among themselves, and each went off to … Continue reading Together Is Better
In our post industrial, feminist world, its not as clear a it used to be what a man is or what he should be. We live in a world, in which feminist groups often associate man’s masculinity with ‘tyranny’ and as a result believe in degrading men’s masculinity. Centuries ago, a mans duty was power and protection. Decades ago, it was to work and provide. … Continue reading How To Be An Attractive Man
My today’s question for you is – What is the role of relationship between parents in their child’s life ? Or How their relationship affect their children ? Please share your thoughts on this… Thank you! B. M. Continue reading || Question of the day 234 ||
