I hope you all had an awesome week. I had a good but tiring one.
The most prominent topic in my mind this week has been how much close relationships mean adaptation. My new and first cat reminded me this.
Before I got him, I was thinking that he would come home and just hang out. I would just live as I did before, except for feeding him and cleaning his litter box. But now, I have to adapt my sleep schedule to a certain extent and I have to organize my mornings and evenings so that I can spend time playing with him. These are things that I did not really consider much and they have been probably the more difficult aspects. All of this to say, there was a good amount of adaptation even with a cat, which is probably one of the easier living creatures to deal with. What happens with human relationships? As we all know, humans are notoriously complicated beings.
Human relationships require a lot of adaptation. I have not always been aware of that. Since I have lived by myself for a long time, I formed a somewhat inflexible lifestyle, which made it difficult for me to adapt to people or situations at times. I hope this has changed or is changing now, because being able to adapt is a major part for any human relationship. This is important because no two humans are the same and will have their own patterns of life. These can sometimes be incompatible and in this case, some adaptation to meet in the middle ground is needed. Sometimes, one party in the relationship cannot make changes for various reasons. Then, the other party might have to change. Some change and some adaptation is good (Caution: not to a level where we would lose our self identity).
What do you think about adaptation in relationships? Can you and do you? Where do you draw the line? Let’s chat.