“When you stay upset on someone, you give your emotional control to that person every time you think about her. You’re allowing that person to control your emotions from a distance. By not forgiving her, you’re allowing that person to control your emotional life as if she would be with you in that moment and the situation is happening all over again.” – Brian Tracy This … Continue reading Holding a grudge? – Reblog
This is something most people want to avoid. This is basically why so many awesome ideas die. People cannot stand the fact they might be wrong. They just don’t, especially when they strongly believe in a certain idea. This is related to the fact that an idea or an opinion is strongly connected to the self, the ego and anything that threatens the idea, it … Continue reading The “curse” of being wrong
Starting from a comment Viola Bleu posted on one of my writings, I began skating the internet (I don’t surf because I don’t know how to swim), to get more insights about this idea that we are becoming what we’re surrounding ourselves with. Why is this happening? It’s happening because whatever we have around us becomes familiar and we like familiar things. The more familiar they are, … Continue reading We become what we’re surrounding ourselves with – Reblog
We do things every day. Some of them we enjoy doing, others to do because we have to and some we do because we need to. There is this thing I’ve noticed: whenever we have to do things, we sometimes feel worse compared to the things we need to do. Why is this happening? I believe this happens because when we have to do things, we subconsciously feel obligated … Continue reading I need to vs I have to – Reblog
Are you familiar with Wim Hof’s method of staying healthy? If you are, you know what I’m talking about. If not, this is going to be interesting. Honestly, I had little information about Wim Hof, but I knew he is a strong healthy individual. Today I came across a video talking about his breathing technique, which is one of the three parts of his method … Continue reading Healthier through breathing
Rephrasing is a therapeutic technique developed by Carl Rogers which represents the expression in a more concise way whatever the other person just said (rephrasing is different from reframing which is another therapeutic method, but this second one is used for changing the context or the perspective with a different one that fits at least as good). Since he was a psychologist, he developed this method as a way … Continue reading Rephrasing: A path to a better communication? – Reblog
Believe it or not, we live most our lives blind. Of course, I’m not talking from a biological perspective, but from a perspective perspective. The fact that we live our own life has both advantages and disadvantages. The biggest advantage is that we control most of it (even more with huge courage). The biggest disadvantage is that we get stuck in one perspective: our own, … Continue reading The eye-opening decision
Circumstances are momentary, but your mind is always there for you. We tend to keep circumstances permanent by holding grudge against them or by using them as excuses when in fact our mind is the one that needs some attention. Things are hard or easy based on how we see them. Let’s learn from the best on how to do things and have no regrets. … Continue reading The Psychology of Greatness
This question has been raised by Natalie and I found it to be a very interesting topic to think about. I think about homeostasis just as I think about comfort zone (even though it’s a biological thing like maintaining the temperature, the level of each hormone released, the blood pressure and so on). Here is a definition of it: “Homeostasis is the state of steady internal conditions … Continue reading Can we beat homeostasis? – Reblog
There is such a big difference between our lives and the lives other people live. This happens not because we live different lives, but because we live our life from a first person’s perspective, whilst everybody else’s life is seen from a third person’s perspective. We see and perceive other lives through stories and adventures, whilst we see our life through the things we need … Continue reading Life: Stories and Adventures
Yeah, I know. It sounds pretty easy, right? Judith S. Beck talks in her book Cognitive therapy: Basics and beyond (1995) about confusions people often make. Let me give you some examples: I feel that he hates me. I know today is going to be a bad day, I can feel I think I’m sad. “Why the f*ck does it matter?” Great question! It matters because according to the cognitive therapy, we can do something … Continue reading The distinction between thoughts and emotions – Reblog
I listened to this podcast today where Tom Bilyeu talked with Ed Mylett about some interesting ideas. One of the things that hit me hard was the story about the time Ed Mylett went to the doctor. He said that this doctor had a different approach in addressing the health issues Ed had. Instead of prescribing some meds and getting to the next patient, this doctor asked Ed if he … Continue reading Motivation through other people – Reblog
This seems to be a never-ending topic, and no wonder. We “communicate” daily, or at least, that’s what we think we do. But do we really? Lately, I got even more obsessed about the way we communicate (I didn’t think it was possible) and obviously, I started with observing the way I communicate. The main issue in my way of communicating is that too many … Continue reading The Art of Communication
It’s Back-to-School Time, lovelies. My favorite time of the year. It’s a time for new sneakers, fresh notebooks, and all of the sharpened pencils a girl can dream of. I suppose as a teacher, it’s in my blood to feel this way. My internal clock seems to tick according to unit plans, projects, and semesters. Yet while this euphoric New-School-Year-feel inevitably fades, I remind myself … Continue reading SnapDragon Speaks: On Planting Positivity.
I know this is not my best title, but it does the job! So… how hopeful is Hope? No, Hope is not a person, it’s a feeling. The feeling that things will be great someday. Here’s the general opinion about hope: “Hope is an optimistic state of mind that is based on an expectation of positive outcomes with respect to events and circumstances in one’s … Continue reading How hopeful is Hope?
Have you noticed how detested are jobs these days? Apparently, 85% of people worldwide hate their jobs (you can find the source of that article here). Since we’re spending so much of our lives working and lots of our time off thinking about work, I believe this is a huge problem our society has. So what are the main reasons for this? In my opinion, one … Continue reading Why some people hate their job – Reblog
Have you ever noticed that when you are “possessed” by a particular emotion, your mind reminds you of past situations when you had that same emotion? Our emotions rule and rock our world. They are so powerful that they can control the way we think in those moments. That’s exactly way it is said that we shouldn’t take important decisions when we’re upset or very … Continue reading The Emotional Fingerprint
When we’re relaxed, our general state is more positive (have you ever seen a relaxed grumpy person?) and we’re also more open to new ideas and suggestions and that’s when changes can happen. I know there are times when we can get easily relaxed, but there are also times when it seems impossible. This motivated me to do some research and find better ways to … Continue reading A great technique to relax – Reblog
Sometime these days I came across some ancient wise words: “Plant a thought and you’ll pick an action; Plant an action and you’ll pick a habit; Plant a habit and you’ll pick a character; Plant a character and you’ll pick a destiny.” – Random Wise Ancient Dude or Dudette This is exactly what I believe and what I’m trying to do. We … Continue reading Ancient Wisdom – Reblog
We all have thoughts, right? Good thoughts, bad thoughts, crazy thoughts, kinky thoughts, sh*tty thoughts and so on. So as long as we’re all thinking, why wouldn’t we do it thinking about great stuff? It seems that we’re becoming what we’re thinking about most of the time. That’s why our surroundings are so important… whatever we have around us determine the way we think. There … Continue reading As long as we’re thinking… – Reblog
