Hi everyone! Happy Sundays! This week, I want to talk about the lack of perfection in life: there is no point in life where everything will be perfect in the way we understand life. When I think about each phase in my life, I can find many goods about each phase. But I cannot find a phase where everything was good. For example, let’s say … Continue reading Is there a perfect life?
Hi everyone! Welcome to Wise & Shine! I hope everyone has had a fantastic weekend! How we define difficulty or problems is variable, or it should be. What is difficult for someone might not be so for another. Likewise, when we look at someone’s life and feel like they have everything perfect, we should not assume that they do not have problems. Sometimes, because of … Continue reading What is a difficulty?
Hi everyone, Happy Sunday! My recent experience showed me that you can get all you want and be the richest person in the world, but if you don’t have anyone to share it with, it does not mean much. This is a (unfortunately) new understanding for me because I have always been goal-oriented (goals that did not include family or friends) and I have not … Continue reading Family and Friends
Hello! I have recently been thinking about some changes I want to make in my life and I tried to observe my decision-making process. I noticed a few things that I want to share. How do we make decisions? One of the common ways is to write down pros and cons of each option and choose the option with more pros and less cons. It … Continue reading Decision Making
Hi everyone, I hope you all had an awesome week. I had a good but tiring one. The most prominent topic in my mind this week has been how much close relationships mean adaptation. My new and first cat reminded me this. Before I got him, I was thinking that he would come home and just hang out. I would just live as I did … Continue reading Adapt and Relate
Hello everyone, Let’s try something different today. Instead of discussing a topic, let’s just discuss how our week went: what we did, what were some good things, some challenges etc. For me, I had a good week. I am finishing up a project at work, so it is a little stressful, especially because I am new at the job. I work with data and data … Continue reading How was your week?
Hello all! How have you all been? I have been a bit busy with my new cat, my first own cat. I got him last Sunday and we are now completing a week. It has been an emotional rollercoaster. I was very scared the first four-five days. I kept thinking ‘what if I do something wrong and harm this cat?’. Now I am getting used … Continue reading Want to feel safe? Yeah, same.
Hello! This week’s topic is change, specifically how our wants and needs change at different ages. Up until recently, I lived in big cities. First, in Istanbul for 6.5 years and then in Los Angeles for 6.5 years. Istanbul has a population of 15 million and it is the bigger of the two, but both are big, active cities. I loved living in them when … Continue reading Change and Aging
Hi there! Today’s topic is forgiveness. More specifically, an interesting way I realized it can happen. I will not be concerned with the definition of forgiveness here. However you define it, this post should apply. I would think that forgiveness happens if you explicitly address an issue. That is what I did for most of my life. I had an issue with someone. Some time … Continue reading Uninitiated Forgiveness
Hello! Let’s talk about cultures today, or rather cultural dilemma. I grew up in Turkey and moved to the US when I was 25. I am Turkish at my core, but now when I go back to Turkey, people notice I don’t live there anymore. I do not even need to speak. They can tell even from posture or gestures. I was even told that … Continue reading Adaptation or Assimilation
Hello! Last Sunday, I moved to my new apartment in a new city, where I will be working at my new job. There is a lot of new. I am obviously very joyful at my new start and honestly, this new start feels like a full one. It is a complete reset of life. My first 9-5 job, my first self-rented and decorated apartment etc. … Continue reading It is just a thought, but it can help
Hi! Let’s talk about how we talk to ourselves today. Internal talk is the communication that goes on within you. You encounter an unpleasant or challenging situation. What do you say to yourself? That is internal talk. This talk is vital in shaping our perspective. Let’s say you said something awkward in a meeting. Do you blame yourself and say you are stupid? Or do … Continue reading Internal Talk
Hello! The topic of this week’s post comes from a discussion with a friend on Friday: manifestation or letting go? Manifestation is a popular term. It refers to the type of activities done to make things you want happen in your life by using various techniques such as visualization, specification etc. Let’s say you want to buy a house. You make a vision board, believe … Continue reading Manifestation or Zero Limits
Hello! This is me in the picture. It is from this Wednesday. I had three graduation ceremonies and one celebration this way. I am finally no longer a student (ever in my life, probably), ever since I started school. I had a crazy week. I am moving for work soon, so I went apartment-hunting last weekend and this early week (hence the lack of a … Continue reading Most important week of my life so far
Hello there! How are you doing today? How was the week? I had a relaxing week. This is the last calm week before the storm so I am trying to make the most of it. Here is the question for today: If you were to to explain what keeps us together and helps us going in one word, what would that word be? I would … Continue reading Hope
Hello! Let’s talk about life transitions today. As you might know, I recently finished my dissertation and I will no longer be a student. I have been a student for about 24 years by now. So, this new chapter in my life is very exciting and I am looking forward to it but also a bit intimidating. I do not know how life is when … Continue reading How to handle transitions in life
Hello there! Today, going with the theme of my last few posts, I want to discuss one other internal change I went through in the past 5-6 months: no longer claiming to know what is good for me and leaving it God’s hands what happens in my life. As I mentioned in an earlier post, my marriage was called off one month before the actual … Continue reading Let it happen
Hello! I have come to the realization in recent years (especially in recent months) that it is very important to understand your nature. Don’t resist your natural state. Here is what I mean: I realized that I am very much of a perfectionist when it comes to work (and just as chill with everything else). What I used to do was to take on too … Continue reading Understand you
Hello everyone! In my post last week, here, I talked about how silent and calm times are often followed by busy times. This is what happened with me last fall (calm times) and then this winter (busy times). I would normally expect myself to be very overwhelmed, especially given that all the things that happened were very important things for my life (dissertation defense, moving … Continue reading What we cannot control
Hello everyone! Wishing you all a great Sunday and a great week! Life has a habit of presenting us with times of unusually busy schedules right after often very stagnant periods. It looks like nothing is happening for months and then boom, everything happens at the same time. Maybe we are presented with those stagnant times first so we can rest properly and get the … Continue reading The Price of Resting too much: Chaos