Hi all, Today, I am going to talk about food again, but a different type, namely mental food, aka thoughts. If you want to read my earlier post about food-food, check out this link. We have all probably heard the phrase ‘We are what we eat’, right? That is why we should be careful about what we take in as food, because food we eat … Continue reading Mental Food
Have you ever wondered why do we dream? Why some of our dreams are so easy to interpret, but others are so strange? Why do we need to have these “virtual” experiences? What is the reason we keep having them? I think that the main reason of a dream is to blow off some steam for our brain. Why? Because most of the … Continue reading Why do we dream? – Reblog
How often do you compare yourself with some random standards? Moreover, how is that comparison affecting you from an emotional point of view? What about from an evolutionary point of view? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think standards are bad, especially the ones regarding our health and our safety. The standards I’m referring to are the ones imposed by other people or by our … Continue reading Standards are Overrated
“Who cares? It’s not like the brain can make a physical difference between positive thoughts and negative thoughts!” Well, in his book Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind (2007) Joe Dispenza talks about how do our brains make a difference between these two types of thoughts. Most of us have neurons, right? Between those neurons there is a small gap called synapse. … Continue reading It’s in your head, and it’s physical
First of all, I’d like to apologize for not publishing on here for the last three weeks or so… I had a rough couple of days and needed a little break. But I’m back, so let’s get to it! 🙂 It was someday during this week that I had started a 15 thread long LinkedIn argument with a leadership expert that was all on respect, … Continue reading That One Thing We Have To Get Straight
One of my most interested fields in psychology is that of dating and understanding how to find and interact with our romantic partner. There is no doubt that if you are in a relationship or married, that you haven’t been through some sort of emotional or mental rollercoaster with your partner. That’s just part of the process, and more often than not, we resolve whatever … Continue reading The Most Important Thing(s) To Understand About Your Relationship
‘A Lion used to prowl about a field in which Four Oxen used to dwell. Many a time he tried to attack them; but whenever he came near they turned their tails to one another, so that whichever way he approached them he was met by the horns of one of them. At last, however, they fell a-quarrelling among themselves, and each went off to … Continue reading Together Is Better
Do you ever feel that the world around you makes no sense? Do you ever feel stuck, not knowing the direction in which you’d like to go? Do you ever look around and you see nothing but chaos? Well, that’s how the world works. But guess what? Despite the chaotic actions, deep down, the principles are the same. Whenever we notice the chaos … Continue reading Switch from chaos to harmony
In our post industrial, feminist world, its not as clear a it used to be what a man is or what he should be. We live in a world, in which feminist groups often associate man’s masculinity with ‘tyranny’ and as a result believe in degrading men’s masculinity. Centuries ago, a mans duty was power and protection. Decades ago, it was to work and provide. … Continue reading How To Be An Attractive Man
A severe negative emotion interferes with the way we see our future. It can be so bad that we forget emotions are temporary and in those moments, we strongly believe that we’ll be in that state the rest of our lives. How stupid does that sound? And still, it’s very true. Having a depression is the clearest example. Actually, one of the reasons … Continue reading Your Emotions are in Your Way
Provided by Anitha KC “The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts”. Marcus Aurelius Does thinking leads to thoughts or thoughts trigger our thinking? However, we do think! Thinking is essential for us to sustain ourselves. But it is enough to think based on our needs rather than becoming a victim of our own thinking. Our mind has different … Continue reading Think
“In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. This discomfort is triggered by a situation in which a belief of a person clashes with new evidence perceived by that person. When confronted with facts that contradict personal beliefs, ideals, and values, people will find a way to resolve the contradiction in … Continue reading Does Cognitive Dissonance hurt?
This is one of the topics approached by most people and it’s interesting to see why. Tom Bilyeu said that most people ask him how to find their passion so I guess it’s a pretty interesting thing. What’s more interesting is that the people who ask this feel they need more in their lives. They feel that they are not doing what they were … Continue reading Passion and motivation are not the same thing
This communication topic is something that starts to fascinate me. The more I learn about it, the more I realize I am a novice at this. I’ll be paraphrasing Terrell Owens who said that we usually are waiting for the other person to stop talking so we can start expressing ourselves. Oh, it would be so good if we wait for that other person … Continue reading Listening to understand vs Listening to respond
Since I write a lot about how thoughts are influencing us and that we should counter them, I thought I should give some example. Below can be found the most typical so called “errors” we do from time to time and a potential adaptive response. Thought: If he doesn’t call me back in the next hour, he probably hates me. Response: Maybe he is … Continue reading Negative thoughts and potential answers
Yeah, I know. It sounds pretty easy, right? Judith S. Beck talks in her book Cognitive therapy: Basics and beyond (1995) about confusions people often make. Let me give you some examples: I feel that he hates me. I know today is going to be a bad day, I can feel I think I’m sad. “Why the f*ck does it matter?” Great question! … Continue reading The distinction between thoughts and emotions
We all have thoughts, right? Good thoughts, bad thoughts, crazy thoughts, kinky thoughts, sh*tty thoughts and so on. So as long as we’re all thinking, why wouldn’t we do it thinking about great stuff? It seems that we’re becoming what we’re thinking about most of the time. That’s why our surroundings are so important… whatever we have around us determine the way we … Continue reading As long as we’re thinking…
Sometime these days I came across some ancient wise words: “Plant a thought and you’ll pick an action; Plant an action and you’ll pick a habit; Plant a habit and you’ll pick a character; Plant a character and you’ll pick a destiny.” – Random Wise Ancient Dude or Dudette This is exactly what I believe and what I’m trying … Continue reading Ancient Wisdom
Do you ever ask yourself if it matters how you dress? What about the way you are arranging your hair? Yes, I know it sounds like some superficial crap, but there is some psychological background here. I’m going to say yes, it matters, but not because we are all some shallow superficial people, but because looks determines the desire to know that person … Continue reading Does it matter how we dress?
Have you ever wondered why do we dream? Why some of our dreams are so easy to interpret, but others are so strange? Why do we need to have these “virtual” experiences? What is the reason we keep having them? I think that the main reason of a dream is to blow off some steam for our brain. Why? Because most of the … Continue reading Why do we dream?
