Everything I write about is aimed at helping people understand and love who they are. To not be ashamed or hide behind some false character armour but instead embrace the gifts that God has given them. As part of that aim, I’ve compiled an epic ebook entitled Unlocking Personality. Based on the Big Five Personality model – one of the most widely recognised and respected frameworks in … Continue reading Unlocking Personality: A FREE eBook I Wrote!
I recently completed a course on personality theory that I found infinitely fascinating. Today I want to share some thoughts about how this understanding can help us better navigate in the world. You can think of personality as the lens through which we view the world. It functions by filtering the world so we only pay attention to certain things. This then influences the way … Continue reading Why Understanding Personality Is Key to Increasing Potential
An introduction to the Big Five Personality Model: How it developed, why it’s reliable and how to use it to understand yourself. Continue reading The Big Five Personality Model: An Empirical Tool for Understanding Yourself
The common definition of narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s idealised self-image and attributes. Narcissists are people who believe to be unique, superior to others and masters of a wonderful existence that no one can imagine. As a result, they may be bullies and arrogant. They need constant admiration and always want to be the best. Therefore, they … Continue reading How to Identify a Narcissistic Personality
“Openness is seen in the breadth, depth and permeability of consciousness, and in the recurrent need to enlarge and examine experience.” – MCCRAE & COSTA, 1997, P. 826 Openness (which is actually Openness to experience) breaks down into Intellect and Openness. Intellects like grappling with ideas. They love to solve complex problems and debate philosophical matters. They have a rich vocabulary and can formulate ideas clearly. … Continue reading Openness: The Gates of Mind
I want to finish this series of posts on personality I’ve put together over the past couple of months by giving you an analogy. To first recap, there are five major personality traits: extraversion, neuroticism, conscientiousness, openness and agreeableness. Wherever you lie on the spectrum of each trait – whatever the circumstances that shaped you – this is the hand you’ve been dealt in this … Continue reading The Hand We’ve Been Dealt
The Benefits of Conscientiousness Conscientiousness can be broken down into the following two aspects: Industriousness and Orderliness. Those who score high in Industriousness are driven, focused and determined. They finish what they start. I’m sure you’ve all heard of the buzzword known as Grit? Well, it’s the same thing. Those high is Orderliness want everything to be in its place, every detail taken care of. … Continue reading Conscientiousness: The Ruthless Pursuit of Order
What Is Extraversion? Extraversion breaks down into the following two fundamental aspects: assertiveness and enthusiasm. Those high in assertiveness are the take-charge types. The so-called natural-born leaders. The game-changing alphas. (It’s a valuable trait for a pilot, I might add.) Those high in enthusiasm are talkative and charismatic. They’re the life of the party. The ones who make friends with enviable ease. (Don’t you just love to … Continue reading Extraversion: The Price of Now
In the lively rhythm of office life, a simple yet profound statement on a poster caught my eye recently: “I am not bossy; I just have better ideas.” Initially, it put a smile on my face, but as I pondered, it led me to a deeper reflection on the dynamics between managers and natural-born leaders, that is the distinction between management and leadership. While the … Continue reading Leadership Beyond Management: A Reflection on True Leadership
As the year draws to a close, it’s the perfect time to reflect, refocus, and set the stage for a successful year ahead. In this blog post, I’ll share three tried-and-tested exercises that will help you review the past year and pave the way for a more purposeful and productive future. Exercise 1: The 90-Day Plan This exercise is based on a simple observation: it … Continue reading 3 Exercises for a Powerful End-of-Year Review
Hi everyone! This week’s topic is change of opinions. This came out of a discussion with my friend this past week. The main point is that for many people, including me, their opinions change almost radically as they go through from teenager years to young adulthood and especially adulthood. I definitely did a lot of things I said I would never do and said things … Continue reading Change
She asked me to cc her my emails, even the most trivial ones. Sometimes she would knock on my office door to ask me if I was okay because I had spent a lot of time in the bathroom, when actually only five minutes have passed. She checked when I walked in and when I left my office to see how long I had been … Continue reading Why a Micromanager Can Create Troubles
Agreeableness breaks down into Compassion and Politeness. Compassionate people are the caring, loving types. They are sympathetic towards other people’s feelings and take an active interest in their friends and families lives. Polite people are very careful with their words. They have a deep respect for authority and hate to seem pushy or impose their will on others. On the surface agreeableness appears to be … Continue reading Agreeableness: The Sacrifice of Self
A hater can be defined as a person who uses expressions of hatred and violently insults individuals, usually taking advantage of anonymity and especially on the Internet and on social networks. What is behind haters behaviour? Last week, Italian’s iconic Sanremo Music Festival took place. In 2021 the band Måneskin won and maybe that’s why you may have heard about Sanremo Festival. They are very … Continue reading What Is Behind Haters Behaviour
Hi everyone, Let’s talk about what we like about ourselves today. What side of our personality do we like best? What can we do well? We tend to see the negative aspects of us. We focus on what we cannot do, should not do, will not do etc. These have their places too. True, we cannot do some things. It is not possible for us … Continue reading We are Awesome!
Hi all, This week’s post is a collaboration post. Khizer and I wrote this post together. Go check his blog. If you like Pointlessoverthinking, you will like his posts as well. He posts about self-reflection, personal development etc. and he is very insightful at that. Having said that, enjoy the post below and let me know what your thoughts are on the topic! Do they … Continue reading How to Make Your Personality Better
Hello there! I hope everyone had a good start to their week! I just finished reading ‘The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari’ by Robin Sharma. I had a couple of issues with the narration but what I want to talk about here is the issue with some of the content. Overall, I think the author had good intentions and wanted to convey as many ideas … Continue reading Speed of Personal Development
Last week, at a meeting about a writing project I’m involved in, someone said, “Only people with a growth mindset will want to read this.” This made me think about how a growth mindset is a key determinant of success in life. Read on to learn how someone with a fixed mindset can take steps toward adopting a growth mindset. The Difference Between a Fixed … Continue reading How to Develop a Growth Mindset
The clothes you wear do not have the only primary function of protecting you from low or high temperatures. They don’t have either the only function to make you more attractive or trendy. Clothes are also one of the most immediate forms of non-verbal communication. There are several scientific studies that demonstrate the relationship between what you wear and your brain. This means that the … Continue reading Fashion Psychology, How What You Wear May Help You
The bond which I shared with that little girl, from the kindergarten I once worked at, was truly special. It took some time to adjust to her unique personality, but once I did, I found her utterly fascinating. I couldn’t help but imagine her as a grown-up, in sleek black leather attire, cruising to and from the law office on a motorcycle – a badass … Continue reading The Size And Colour Of a Lie
