Provided by K.A.L.T from Kalt In Thought
I’m sure that many of us are guilty of overthinking.
We assess our every action and regret any action that brings about a not so favorable consequence. However, doing so is nothing more than pointless overthinking.
Why is it pointless?
It is because no matter what the consequences are, you never know whether making a different choice would have resulted in a better result anyway. As we go through life, we are forced to make decisions without the hindsight that we gain after the moment. Thus, all we can really do is accept the choices that we have made and simply move forward.
We cannot afford to spend our time idling and contemplating our every decision. All that would do is leave us feeling nothing but regret and shame, forcing us to a standstill. Not only is it pointless, but it is also harmful to ourselves.
Of course, to not overthink is much easier said than done. Especially for those of us who are generally more negative due to our personality. For some of us, every mistake we make eats away at us, and we feel helpless. Every mistake we make deepens our sense of inferiority and hopelessness. We overthink and end up hating ourselves more and more.
Unless we have friends to pull us out of our downward spiral, it would be near impossible for us to recover. Society places much emphasis on results and achievements that if we have no one to recognise our good efforts despite a lack of spectacular results, maintaining a good attitude towards our work would prove difficult. Especially when one has convinced themselves that their hard work is meaningless and that they cannot ever produce good results no matter how hard they try.
How did one or perhaps a few bad results cause us to believe that hard work is meaningless? This is where the root of the problem lies.
We overthink. We think that our every mistake has a much larger negative impact than it actually does. We take a normal mistake that anyone could have made and make it exclusive to ourselves. As if we are the only ones who would have made that mistake. In a sense, we overthink because we overestimate ourselves. We think that we should not have made such a stupid mistake that has led to such drastic consequences. We beat ourselves up over anything and everything. Due to the fact that we think too much into it, we fail to see it as it is.
A simple mistake that can be resolved easily if we just calm down and think.
Of course, this is just one example of something we may overthink about. There are many things that we could possibly overthink about in life. Sometimes, it may be better to not think too hard if we want an easier life. As the translated lyrics of“僕が死のうと思ったのは”by amazarashi goes,
“The reason I can’t stop thinking about death must be that I take living too seriously.”
I’m sure many of us have felt this way before. We ended up worrying over every little thing and ended up being worse off than those happy-go-lucky “idiots” who seem to be putting in far less effort into living life than we are. It’s frustrating. So frustrating that sometimes it makes us want to just die. It makes us feel like we just aren’t cut out for this world…
- Why do we torture ourselves with excessive thoughts?
- Why can’t we live a carefree life like those “idiots”?
- When will we stop overthinking?
No matter how pointless we realise it is, thoughts will continue to fill our heads if it is in our nature. The only way we could possibly counter all these messy thoughts would be to have an outlet. Be it writing, talking with friends or simply ranting to whoever is willing to listen. Whatever it is, we need to release all our pent-up thoughts.
Only then could our pointless overthinking perhaps have some meaning.
After all, don’t we all love it when we find a post online that describes exactly how we feel and think? If we can successfully put into words our otherwise messy thoughts as a result of “overthinking”, there may be people out there who appreciate it.
Despite me saying all this, it does not change the fact that we should not OVERthink when making decisions. We should go through life making whatever decisions we feel is right and reflect deeply on them after. There is no such thing as pointless overthinking unless we let it lead to a never-ending session of self-depreciation. Any thought put into a proper reflection is a step closer to finding ourselves in this world. In this world with no answers available to us, we wander along the infinite paths laid out in front of us.
Are you an overthinker? If you are, do you believe you’d be better off caring less and thinking less? Or do you perhaps believe that there is no such thing as overthinking?
19 thoughts on ““Pointless” Overthinking”
Love the way you put it my friend.Thought provoking.True. the reason for our death is over thinking
It is, especially if we cannot control it!
Oh baby baby, this is so trippy. Those are my initials for my legit real name.
What a coincidence! 😀
a cool as heck one!
Thank you K.A.L.T. for this post. Overthinking is a tricky one. There are definitely benefits to thinking a lot, but all of us do tend to focus our lots of thinking at times on issues and in directions that don’t benefit us. It’s a long process of thinking (ironically) to learn how to focus in different directions. Definitely something I’m still learning despite having made a lot of progress.
Indeed, I guess you could say that there is no such thing as overthinking as long as your train of thought is headed in the right direction. However, finding that “right direction” as well as following it is the tricky part we are likely all struggling with.
Oh I love the song mentioned in this post. And the post is thought-provoking! Thank you!
Glad you loved the post and the song 🙂
If you want to listen to more songs by the artist by purchasing a CD it’d be great if you use the banner for CDJapan on my website kaltinthought.com and search “amazarashi”. Though if you just want to continue listening for free on youtube where you can enjoy the lyrics as well just search amazarashi. Other songs of their’s that I like include “Philosophy”, “Living Dead” and “Crushed by the empty sky” among many others 🙂
I think they have a few songs on spotify too if you have spotify ^^
Wow, thank you for your recommendation!
You’re welcome! 🙂
Wow! Thanks for helping me to format the post to make it look cleaner 🙂
Really like how it came out ^~^
My pleasure! I love it too!
I’m very cerebral but I don’t think I’m an “overthinker” although I used to be!
There are different types of thoughts: ruminations, obsessions, preoccupations, distractions–those are the kind that can weigh us down and sometimes immobilize us.
There are also uplifting and inspiring thoughts that pave the way for positive experiences and less fear with making bold choices.
I’ve found that an underlying perfectionism is the culprit when we engage in destructive overthinking. What if we make a mistake or look foolish? Sometimes overthinking a future decision assumes that there is a right or wrong next step versus a fluid decision in an ever-changing world.
Love this! Thank you so much for your valuable comment. Yes, there are differences in this “overthinking” process. Can you please share with us how come you’re not an overthinker anymore? What triggered the change?
Thanks! Overthinking was affecting my ability to be content Therapy, age, love, sobriety, healthy eating and God helped set me free, and not necessarily in that order. It doesn’t mean I never feel anxious, or don’t have issues with it. It’s just no longer a lifestyle. 😀
I overthink a lot and I think I would be better off caring less, it seems easy but it’s not, I wish I could. And this was an amazing blog!
Thank you! How is this overthinking making you feel?
Overthinking makes me feel everything, but I can tell you it’s nothing good. There are times I just sit and start thinking “what if I had done this” or “I should have kept quiet about this and things would have gone a little more differently” and a whole lot more, I don’t even know how to handle it. But I will, thanks!