Why are some relationships harmonious and happy and others seem like a struggle? Why does a personal or professional relationship that seemed good suddenly become difficult? The explanation can be found in the dramatic triangle and in the role played by each of us, according to the theory of Stephen Karpman, a transactional psychologist. Let’s … More The Dramatic Triangle and The Role We Play in It
Alone we go faster, together we go further – African proverb To understand why collective intelligence is so powerful, I would like to invite you to think about bees. I find bees fascinating insects. They are hard-working insects. All day long, bees look for and carry nectar from flowers to their beehive to produce very … More Why Collective Intelligence is Powerful
I’m going to do something risky here. First, revisit a topic that my brilliant colleague Jack Canfora recently covered inspirationally and beautifully in Why Sports Help Me. And secondly do something I’m not qualified to do by giving a sports recap. But as Wise and Shine is a community of writers and readers, I’m thinking … More Why Sports Make Me Feel Alive
“How’s at work?” it is a question that is often asked to us by our loved ones and when we answer, we probably think about the difficulties we face or the discomfort/distress we feel towards our work. If this is your case, don’t worry because you are not alone. The work environment has changed a … More How to Find Your Inner Motivation at Work
A few months ago, my daughter and her best friend were doing an art project at my dining room table. My 6-year-old daughter announced that she didn’t like the color brown. And her best friend took offense at that because she is brown. I identify as heterosexual, white female. I am so unambiguous about that … More The Gift of Empathy
What is active listening? Do you like music? How do you listen to your favourite music? When I was a teenager, I used to learn by heart the lyrics of my favourite songs. Still today I try to do it. I can easily learn the lyrics if I listen carefully to the song and if … More Active Listening
I have a friend who like me, also works in the IT industry. But what he’d really like to do is be a winemaker. The frustrated winemaker in him expresses itself in several ways – remoteness, depression, anger and resentment. But he stays the course with his job because he has a family that he … More The Weight of the Provider
The common definition of narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s idealised self-image and attributes. Narcissists are people who believe to be unique, superior to others and masters of a wonderful existence that no one can imagine. As a result, they may be bullies and arrogant. They need constant … More How to Identify a Narcissistic Personality
By Ellen Jayne | The dawn of a new decade, a fresh era, daunting dreams and prodigious plans—2020 forecasted a favorable year. Jump to July and 2020 has been a whirlwind of woeful world events. Did anyone else feel like they were concurrently downward spiraling with the world’s events? I had, too, until I realized I couldn’t live like that anymore. … More How To Find Courage Through Chaos
What is with us humans? Why do we have a tendency to trivialize other people’s problems, but when they happen to us, it’s the end of the effing world? We compartmentalize for our friends: Hey, at least you don’t have to worry about: the political nature of Academia; gas prices; sibling rivalry; no buffer zone; … More SnapDragon Speaks: On The Unwritten Page.
Ladies and Gentlemen! I stand before you here in this P.O. Amphitheatre to posit a scenario for us to ponder. We are a social species that (for the most part) behaves in accordance with a set of unspoken rules and expectations. I present before you a hypothetical situation that requires your judgement. I encourage you … More What would you do? – Situational understanding
Provided by Scherezade Ozwulo Originally posted on The Introverted Christian Ever since I could remember, I always had an affinity for older people. I, myself had an “old soul” and found it easy to relate to those not in my peer group. Older folks (seniors) told the best stories of childhood reminiscence and … More Does Burnout Subdue Empathy?
Did you ever care about something or someone and then sh*t happened and you got hurt? What was the first thought that came through your mind in that moment? Was it something similar to “I’m not doing this ever again”? It seems that whenever we get hurt physically or mentally by something or … More The Isolation “Method”