In the pursuit of a deeper self-knowledge I encountered this concern about how I decided (consciously or unconsciously) that my actions and my behavior are the most adequate ones. From all the possible ways we could behave, why we chose this? It is interesting how the same thought can trigger two different reactions and that’s because of the core beliefs each of us … Continue reading How we behave now is the best we can at this point
Since I write a lot about how thoughts are influencing us and that we should counter them, I thought I should give some example. Below can be found the most typical so called “errors” we do from time to time and a potential adaptive response. Thought: If he doesn’t call me back in the next hour, he probably hates me. Response: Maybe he is … Continue reading Negative thoughts and potential answers
“Really? Positive Thinking? I have real life problems here! Shut the f*ck up!” you might think. I’m hearing about this term all around me, but no one seems to refer to the things I’m thinking when I hear it. People around me think that positive thinking means to see butterflies with some pink glasses in a grey world full of sh*t. In my … Continue reading A few words about Positive Thinking
Have you noticed how detested are jobs these days? Apparently, 85% of people worldwide hate their jobs (you can find the source of that article here). Since we’re spending so much of our lives working and lots of our time off thinking about work, I believe this is a huge problem our society has. So what are the main reasons for this? In … Continue reading Why some people hate their job
In my “journeys” on YouTube while listening to what the greatest people have to say about everything, I’ve noticed that so many of them got awesome because they were at a very low point in their lives and they decided to do something about it. It’s interesting how we feel the need of some sort of change when we’re suffering and it seems … Continue reading From great pain to great motivation
A while back I’ve approached the addictions topic, but not from a pathological point of view. It seems that the decision to include this video game addiction in their diseases classification (ICD), World Health Organization (WHO) provoked lots of discussions. According to WHO, the behavior of playing video games can be defined as a “disease” if it comes with the following three characteristics: … Continue reading Video games addiction
Sometimes I find myself having the thought F*ck, it’s Monday again! and I don’t really know why. Most of the times, this is related to the fact that people hate the work they do. I don’t hate it, but I don’t love it either. I have some sort of a neutral view regarding it, so what’s the problem? I believe the issue here … Continue reading Why do we hate Mondays so much?
Apparently we cannot stop thinking. Something goes through our mind all the time. A stupid joke, a song we heard on the bus, the color of your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/bus driver/ underwear. We’re always thinking about something even if we like it or not. What about the moments the negative creepy thoughts crawl their way in? There are some ways to kick them out for … Continue reading We cannot stop thinking
I had a trip lately that involved some heights and I had to face my fear of heights phobia (also called acrophobia). A phobia is basically an excessive persistent stupid fear. Because I want to overcome it, I brought out in the light my old college materials and I found this method called systematic desensitization. In short, the person is exposed imaginary (or … Continue reading A way to overcome a phobia
When we’re relaxed, our general state is more positive (have you ever seen a relaxed grumpy person?) and we’re also more open to new ideas and suggestions and that’s when changes can happen. I know there are times when we can get easily relaxed, but there are also times when it seems impossible. This motivated me to do some research and find better ways … Continue reading A great technique to relax
In one book I was reading I found a quote by Epictetus and I liked it so much that I started to search for more. This dude had some deep thoughts about things that are still valid. Here are the ones I love the most. “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond … Continue reading Quotes by Epictetus
I’ve approached this idea in other posts as well, but I believe it’s so important it deserves a new one. In my opinion, whenever someone behaves in a certain way because of what we said or did, that person actually behaves based on their interpretation on how that is going to affect himself/herself. This is how I see it: if I’m arguing with … Continue reading Probably, it has nothing to do with us
How many times does it happen for us to feel good about something and after that we’re comparing ourselves with someone else and our mood turns to sh*t? How about someone else does that comparison and again, our mood turns to sh*t? When I was a kid and I came home with a high grade at something, my mother always asked me who … Continue reading Comparing with others
Thanks to beckyallinclusive I remembered that there is a way to boost our motivation. It is recommended for us to write our goals down and read them daily for maintaining our motivation levels up. But what if we don’t know our goals? What if we need more time to find them and we also need motivation for that search? A great way to … Continue reading The Motivational Dream Chart
We all have thoughts, right? Good thoughts, bad thoughts, crazy thoughts, kinky thoughts, sh*tty thoughts and so on. So as long as we’re all thinking, why wouldn’t we do it thinking about great stuff? It seems that we’re becoming what we’re thinking about most of the time. That’s why our surroundings are so important… whatever we have around us determine the way we … Continue reading As long as we’re thinking…
This is such a deep topic and I’ve found some more interesting ideas about communication which I want to share with you. Besides those 4 steps that I mentioned here, Jacques Salome and Sylvie Galland talk about different levels on which we’re expressing ourselves and in their book If Only I’d Listen to Myself they mention five of them: The level of facts; … Continue reading About Communication… Again
There are so many times when we want something, but we refuse to take action because we think that our action might create a bad impression or even hurt someone, so it’s basically some fear involved. Here is an example about this: let’s say that a 25 years old male lives together with his parents in their house. The parents cannot stand the … Continue reading Who has our responsibility?
Today I decided to let some experts talk so I put together a list of quotes that I found interesting. “Failure is just an opportunity to start again in a smarter way.” – Henry Ford “Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill “You should live like every action you have should become an universal … Continue reading Pointless (or not) Quotes
A few days ago I talked about how holding a grudge can interfere with our lives. In reality, it’s not that easy to let it go. Here is what Jacque Salome and Sylvie Galland think it can help: “When you’re letting yourself touched, hurt by the other, you can diminish your discomfort, your suffering that’s in you: For example, you can violently write … Continue reading How to release some tension
“When you stay upset on someone, you give your emotional control to that person every time you think about her. You’re allowing that person to control your emotions from a distance. By not forgiving her, you’re allowing that person to control your emotional life as if she would be with you in that moment and the situation is happening all over again.” – Brian … Continue reading Holding a grudge?
