“When you’re letting yourself touched, hurt by the other, you can diminish your discomfort, your suffering that’s in you: For example, you can violently write on a piece of paper, without hesitation, your accusations, your anger, your despair. Write for yourself and throw the papers away when the storm calmed down. Symbolize your situations through objects. Give yourself some instant gratifications, like chocolate (for Marina Svetaia, chocolate was the ideal remedy for sadness… in homeopathic doses) or a bath (the water absorbs the negativity, it washes it away), to bandage the wound. Draw or paint what’s going on inside you.”
I’m not sure about that chocolate part because it can create some strong sadness-food associations which can be harmful to the body, but the rest of those strategies seem to be helpful. For me, watching a fire burn can be very helpful and if you have those angry papers, throw them on fire for extra effect (if you have it written on a laptop, please don’t burn it).
This writing on a paper and destroying that paper works because this way we’re placing those negative feelings into a physical object (in this case, paper) which are getting destroyed. Actually, this is a common practice for some psychotherapists. The final touch here is the watching part. We need to watch that paper getting destroyed for the effect to be complete.
Have you ever tried this? If so, did it help you?