Do you know that if you put a crab in a bucket, it can run away, but if you put together a group of crabs in a bucket, none of them can escape, because as soon as one will start climbing, another will reach it, grab it and pull it down?
Some people are like those crabs. They push you down, while others pull you up.
That’s why you should never hang out with crabs. If you want to change your life, change your relationships first, especially if you want to be successful.
But what do I mean by being successful?
Most of us actually think that success is having a lot of money, a beautiful car, a big house in a prestigious area, a super gourgeous, nice and rich partner. Usually successful people are also famous, they can be actors, great sportsmen or business people.
We take these ideas from the various media, television in the first place. Advertisements and programs make us see unreal worlds and at the same time they make us want all those things that we think would change our lives and transform us into successful people.
I think that success is about fulfilling your dreams and living according to your values.
From this point of view, I consider myself a successful person. I have accomplished so many things (and many I still want to accomplish) that I wanted to do since I was a teenager and that match with my values. For example, building up a family: I got married and I’m still married after almost 28 years; I have a son; I do a meaningful job; I live in a city that gives me the chance to get to know different cultures; I studied a lot and I still want to study a lot to learn and better understand the world and the people.
I am not famous but all the things I have done led me to live a pleasant, fun and serene life. Obviously I have my ups and downs and my difficulties like everyone else. But this does not change my idea of being a successful person. I did the things I believed in and still believe in. I went ahead despite the difficulties. This is another meaning of success: the ability to keep going, always, despite everything.
And you can also call it resilience. Think of children when they learn to walk. They fall and get up, again and again but for sure they do not think they will never be able to walk because they have fallen so many times! They keep on going, falling and getting up because the final goal is so important. Maybe sometimes they get hurt and cry, but they won’t give up, they want to learn to walk. And one day they will succeed!
Spending time with successful people who care for you, will help you build up a life that fulfills your dreams and matches with your values.
Therefore, don’t go with crabs, those that try to pull you down. After spending more time with successful people, you will learn a lot from them. They are contagious!
Keeping away from crabs, protects your reality and will let you follow your dreams and your values.
What is your dream? What are your values? What fills up your life?
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