Is there a connection between the two? I was actually amazed once I started to observe and analyze what happens when people cuss (me included). In my culture, people tend to judge the ones who cuss as being rude or uneducated. However, it has nothing to do with that. Yes, an educated person will keep an eye on his/her surroundings and he/she will cuss only if the situation allows that. Uneducated people will cuss anytime.
Cussing is a venting tool
Yes, thatβs right! Think about the moments you catch yourself cussing. Does it happen when youβre excited or it happens when you feel some form of frustration, anger or sadness? Sometimes the feeling is so intense that the only way to express it is to drop a little f bomb so you wonβt punch someone or something.
Cussing words come easier
When weβre possessed by strong reactive emotions, we are basically unable to create essays or stories. We get the urge to express what we feel in a short brutal way. Can an essay do that? No, but breaking a dish can. And when there are no dishes around, a simple βF*ck you!!!!β does the trick. Itβs simple and efficient.
Cussing words have huge energy
People donβt cuss when theyβre tired. They cuss when they have energy created by those emotions. A βf*cukβ carries much more energy than a βhelloβ because it is directly linked and powered by a strong emotion. Thatβs why we feel a little better and our level of energy decreases a little bet after we cuss something or someone. That energy is released through the words.
In the end, itβs all about releasing that energy or channeling it to something productive. If we hold it in and we do nothing about it, it will push us further more into the fight or flight mode, which is hurtful long-term. Just as we can release unwanted energy through movement, we can release some through cussing. Itβs not nice nor elegant, but itβs effective.
What was the most inappropriate moment when you dropped an f bomb?
I’m trying to do better but I still drop the f-bomb a lot. When I’m really upset or angry it just flows right out of my mouth. It does get the point across very well though, course as it may be.
Does that happen in any other conditions? Or only when you’re really upset or angry?
The f-bomb only comes out when I’m angry or feel threatened. I don’t know why. I don’t say it any other time.
I hate people who seem to think that cursing often relates to your level of intelligence…Iβm from jersey! Itβs like the accent almost! π
I guess you’re relaxed as f*ck!
That literally made crack the βeffβ up! π
Perfect response! Hahaha!
Cool piece. I tend to cuss when Iβm really comfortable or too uncomfortable. I think this has to do with that energy level you speak of here. Iβm definitely a βsituational sailorβ.
“Situational sailor” lol Loved it!
Goodness… I tend to swear like a sailor… most specially in stressful circumstances.
It seems that stress gets “the best” of us.
Hmmmmm I donβt know if I agree or not. Iβve cursed before, sure. But I lose respect and understanding for ANYONE that curses all day every day. There is ALWAYS another word. Choices! Choices is what it all comes down to.
I started cursing about 7 years ago because I thought…. well, Life is short, everyoneβs doing it, Iβm feeling superior to my friends by not cursing when they curse and are actual real-life high achievers etc.
Initially it felt like speaking an alien tongue but now it just slips right out π
Fudge just doesnβt have the punch that f**k has (π)
I guess that people who cuss all day know no other way to handle the frustration. Or they’re too lazy to use it.
Dropping one right now ….. F**K!
Who wouldβve thought! Great article π
Sh*t! I didn’t expect it! Thanks for the compliment! π
I fell off the monkey bars when I was 8 years old and said FUCK really loud. Ate a bar of soap that day.
Have you ever said Fuck again? :))
And cussing can be perceived as a weakness from lack of self control
Yes, it can be. Awesome point! Thank you for sharing!
Iβve heard cursing described as passion, which seems to fit. Passion + frustration or anger.
Hmm… it might be. Do you think passion is required for a cuss to “happen”? Or frustration or anger is enough?
I donβt know about you, but I usually passionately frustrated or angry. The cuss jumps out when I hit a certain threshold of passion.
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Of course they can. Actually, that’s passive-aggressive speaking and it’s even more offensive.
I have a total potty mouth but it seems to be lessening a bit as I get older. A bit. I still crack up when I think about the day my mother released a very loud f-bomb under her breath – not- as we left a drug store, leaving the teenage cashier and another customer in fits of giggles. Sheβs a very refined, sophisticated looking 77 year old woman so it was a bit shocking I think. I read a study that said people who swear more are more intelligent, so Iβm standing by that. π
That sounds like a very interesting study! Do you remember the theory behind that? How come people who swear are more intelligent than others?
Haha, no I just grabbed on to that fact and didnβt worry about the theory. Not super intelligent – ha!
Another funny story – I was doing an exercise with my grade one class about bullying, so I asked what some of the mean things theyβd heard on the playground. I got the usual βyou canβt playβ, βyouβre stupidβ, βI donβt want to be your friendβ. Then, the littlest mite in the class raises her hand and her big brown eyes and says in an unusually loud voice, βyouβre an A**HOLEβ π³ Moving on, moving on… π€£
The most difficult line I had to tread was when I was living with an Army Private and teaching grade school Spanish. Damn hard to keep my vocabulary straight per my audience. -Rebecca
Well, what would have happened if an f bomb dropped now and then?
Ha ha, at the Catholic school where I taught? Probably a firing offense! -Rebecca
Mark Twain supposedly said, βUnder certain circumstances, profanity provides a relief denied even to prayer.”