48 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 373

    1. I’ve felt that, too.
      Then I think, love is to be unconditional so that includes expectations.
      And yet, love is respect for the expectations and boundaries others’ have of us.
      I think it’s a different formula for every relationship.

  1. I think “well I would have done that differently”, but then I realise that we’re different people and we couldn’t possibly act in the same way (and I wouldn’t want everyone in the world too either)

    1. True! I think it would be better to have no expectations at all in the first place due to the fact that we all are different people and we can’t possibly act in the same way. Of course, it’s harder to do it…

    1. I love this perspective! It’s interesting to see people doing this every single day and they get angry daily because of this. I wonder if the situation is someday going to change…

  2. This is a great question, for reason being it made me think. I actually haven’t had expectations for anyone other than myself in quite a while, so I guess to answer your question I feel nothing because I expect nothing

      1. I guess after so many let-downs from the ones I thought were close, I just gave up on expecting,

  3. At first, I get to feel disappointed.
    But, when I get to understand the circumstances leading up to the event, I ask myself if I would have done different?
    In the end, I realise no one is perfect.

  4. Don’t care. I don’t want anything more than people want for themselves. Do not expect and you will feel better about yourself. 😊😊😊

  5. I always remember this quote :
    “I am not in this world to live up to your expectations and you are not in this world to live up to mine” – Bruce Lee

  6. I met a narcissist. Of course, I didn’t know it for a long time.
    Since meeting such a person, I’ve set my expectations so low that it shouldn’t be hard for normal people not to disappoint me.

  7. Reading the comments, I actually questioned myself if I know the meaning of the word.

    ex·pec·ta·tion: noun
    1. a strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future
    expect: transitive verb
    1a: to consider probable or certain
    1b: to consider reasonable, due, or necessary
    2: to anticipate or look forward to the coming or occurrence of

    I think it is good and necessary to have expectations towards others. On the other hand, my expectations have to be in the realm of reasonable. If someone fails my expectations, the situation has to be checked to a reference point for the disappointment to be justifiable.
    If I am jaywalking with my face buried into my phone and expect people not to hit me with their car, well, then I am in the wrong to have such expectation as I am failing to fulfil my responsibilities.
    If my friend keeps being late in every occasion, then we are both wrong, as he cannot keep his word, and I am calling someone like him a friend when he is clearly lacking any respect towards me and my time.
    It is nothing wrong with feeling disappointed as long as it makes me go back to my reference point and reflect on myself and adjust my life.

    1. Thank you for this insightful comment! So expectations are either wrongly set, or they are set accordingly to our standards which others might not have. Either way, we might suffer…

  8. To be honest it doesn’t bother me as much as it would bother me if I was the one to fail the expectations.

    1. This is interesting… but what if those expectations have nothing to do with you as a person but more with the one setting those expectations? For example, someone might expect for you to call him/her everyday, but that won’t happen because you’re not even friends.

      1. That’s a good point and I’ll have to think about that.

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