In the lively rhythm of office life, a simple yet profound statement on a poster caught my eye recently: “I am not bossy; I just have better ideas.” Initially, it put a smile on my face, but as I pondered, it led me to a deeper reflection on the dynamics between managers and natural-born leaders, that is the distinction between management and leadership. While the … Continue reading Leadership Beyond Management: A Reflection on True Leadership
Everything I write about is aimed at helping people understand and love who they are. To not be ashamed or hide behind some false character armour but instead embrace the gifts that God has given them. As part of that aim, I’ve compiled an epic ebook entitled Unlocking Personality. Based on the Big Five Personality model – one of the most widely recognised and respected frameworks in … Continue reading Unlocking Personality: A FREE eBook I Wrote!
I want to finish this series of posts on personality I’ve put together over the past couple of months by giving you an analogy. To first recap, there are five major personality traits: extraversion, neuroticism, conscientiousness, openness and agreeableness. Wherever you lie on the spectrum of each trait – whatever the circumstances that shaped you – this is the hand you’ve been dealt in this … Continue reading The Hand We’ve Been Dealt
“Openness is seen in the breadth, depth and permeability of consciousness, and in the recurrent need to enlarge and examine experience.” – MCCRAE & COSTA, 1997, P. 826 Openness (which is actually Openness to experience) breaks down into Intellect and Openness. Intellects like grappling with ideas. They love to solve complex problems and debate philosophical matters. They have a rich vocabulary and can formulate ideas clearly. … Continue reading Openness: The Gates of Mind
The Benefits of Conscientiousness Conscientiousness can be broken down into the following two aspects: Industriousness and Orderliness. Those who score high in Industriousness are driven, focused and determined. They finish what they start. I’m sure you’ve all heard of the buzzword known as Grit? Well, it’s the same thing. Those high is Orderliness want everything to be in its place, every detail taken care of. … Continue reading Conscientiousness: The Ruthless Pursuit of Order
What Is Extraversion? Extraversion breaks down into the following two fundamental aspects: assertiveness and enthusiasm. Those high in assertiveness are the take-charge types. The so-called natural-born leaders. The game-changing alphas. (It’s a valuable trait for a pilot, I might add.) Those high in enthusiasm are talkative and charismatic. They’re the life of the party. The ones who make friends with enviable ease. (Don’t you just love to … Continue reading Extraversion: The Price of Now
An introduction to the Big Five Personality Model: How it developed, why it’s reliable and how to use it to understand yourself. Continue reading The Big Five Personality Model: An Empirical Tool for Understanding Yourself
I recently completed a course on personality theory that I found infinitely fascinating. Today I want to share some thoughts about how this understanding can help us better navigate in the world. You can think of personality as the lens through which we view the world. It functions by filtering the world so we only pay attention to certain things. This then influences the way … Continue reading Why Understanding Personality Is Key to Increasing Potential
Hi everyone! This week’s topic is change of opinions. This came out of a discussion with my friend this past week. The main point is that for many people, including me, their opinions change almost radically as they go through from teenager years to young adulthood and especially adulthood. I definitely did a lot of things I said I would never do and said things … Continue reading Change
Hi everyone, Let’s talk about what we like about ourselves today. What side of our personality do we like best? What can we do well? We tend to see the negative aspects of us. We focus on what we cannot do, should not do, will not do etc. These have their places too. True, we cannot do some things. It is not possible for us … Continue reading We are Awesome!
Hi everyone! How are you all doing today? Is life treating you well? I hope it is, because we will talk about it today. Recently, I thought about an important question and was very happy with my own answer. The question was: What would I wish I was doing differently if I knew it was my last day today? Would I wish to be more … Continue reading If today was your last day?
Hi all, How are you all doing? I hope everyone is doing good! I want to discuss some issue that came up in a discussion with a friend. I thought a lot about this issue before too and I wanted to share it with you. The issue is perfectionism. The idea that you cannot make mistakes and whatever you do must be perfect. I lived … Continue reading You are perfect?-Who, me? No, I am not.
Hi all, This week’s post is a collaboration post. Khizer and I wrote this post together. Go check his blog. If you like Pointlessoverthinking, you will like his posts as well. He posts about self-reflection, personal development etc. and he is very insightful at that. Having said that, enjoy the post below and let me know what your thoughts are on the topic! Do they … Continue reading How to Make Your Personality Better
Hi all, I hope everyone is doing well! Today, I want to talk about one way I use without knowing that makes me value and hang onto my habits more: leaving my habits for a while. I have been getting back to some of my old habits recently and I like this. I also have been thinking why some habits are harder to form in … Continue reading Habits are Harder to Form in Adulthood?
Situation: Mary is going to marry her boyfriend of three years. But there are some things that bother her. Her boyfriend is from a different culture and had a different upbringing. They are both open-minded people but they are different in food choices and family interaction. Her boyfriend tends to get a bit too jealous at times, which makes her worry. But then she decides … Continue reading Brain-Storming 3
Hi everyone, I want to talk about how weather affects our moods and even personality today because a friend is visiting me from a colder country and we got to discuss this a bit. So I wanted to learn what you think. A warning before I start, though: whatever I write here is about how the weather might affect us and not how it ‘determines’ … Continue reading Weather and us: What we take from it
How often do you compare yourself with some random standards? Moreover, how is that comparison affecting you from an emotional point of view? What about from an evolutionary point of view? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think standards are bad, especially the ones regarding our health and our safety. The standards I’m referring to are the ones imposed by other people or by our … Continue reading Standards are Overrated
These personality traits are very popular and used by a large number of tests. Even though we see this most of the time as two different things, it’s actually more of a continuum so the conclusion is that we all have some percentage of each of these two traits (according to Carl Jung and the developers of the MBTI). “Extraversion tends to be … Continue reading Introversion vs Extraversion
Provided by The Girl from Jupiter Originally posted on https://thegirlfromjupiter1.wordpress.com So the other day I was just sitting on the bus, staring out the window as I do most days and aimlessly thinking about life when suddenly my brain decided to just drop this existential truth bomb of a question on me: Who AM I? As a teenager (or perhaps just a human being) every … Continue reading Where does your sense of Identity come from?