Are you the kind of person who targets higher and higher and is never satisfied with the achieved result? If so, don’t worry but be aware that being perfectionist is a weapon to double cut. If you are too demanding with yourself, you are a candidate for burn-out.
Perfectionism is like stress: in small doses it is fine, but when it is too much it is too much! It takes different forms and changes according to the people. Generally, the perfectionist is a victim of the working environment, or of the social or family pressure.
For instance, people who always want to try to be a model employee and always work more, in both quantitative and qualitative terms, are perfectionists.
This behaviour can be harmful because it can turn the initial motivation into professional fatigue. A person of this type works in an inflexible and rigid way. They don’t take distance from their job and they don’t accept to make mistakes.
Other kinds of perfectionists get lost in details, they work a lot but not in an efficient way. Others still focus on smaller assignments, because they are afraid to face greater projects and not to succeed in managing them and to conduct them up to the end. The fear of failure that some types of perfectionists feel, can prevent them from accepting new challenges.
Sometimes, they also behave like that at home, in a familiar environment. Their place must be always under impeccable conditions and when they come back from work they don’t let go and take a rest, but they start rearranging and cleaning.
In the long run, those people become fragile and vulnerable. They can go into a burn-out, alimentary troubles or a depression. In the case of a burn-out, their energy progressively decreases because of a constant overload/overwork. If then other factors are added like a little gratifying job or missing recognition of their contribution at work, the risk of burn-out increases.
What could perfectionists do? They should try to focus more on the process, rather than on the result. The result actually depends also on external circumstances that the person cannot always control. Moreover, those people can look for things they like and that are energising, like hobbies, passions, going out with friends, spending more time with their family. The perfectionists have to learn to know themselves better, asking themselves what they like to do, what gives them energy.
They should also learn that human beings make mistakes and that you learn by your own errors.
To invent the light bulb, 5000 attempts were necessary!
To a certain extent, I am a perfectionist but I learned how to let go. What about you, are you a perfectionist?
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