Every one of us wants a good life, right? I don’t think there is anyone in this world that says: “F*ck good life! I want to live as miserable as possible!” The thing is that a good life is formed of multiple areas, which has different levels of importance, depending of what you want (career, family, friends, health and so on).
What strokes me the most is that each of this can be achieved with many “strategies” and each of those strategies require a certain amount of dedication time. The problem is that we all have 24 hours within a day, therefore how can we best decide to split those 24 hours to create our good life?
Here is where focus comes it. I believe that most of us change our strategy very often depending on the results we get compared to our expectations. For example, if we work hard for one month and we are top performers at our jobs, we expect to get a raise. However, if that doesn’t happen due to different factors, we tend to stop working so hard, therefore we can say we lost our focus. But what if we had to work hard two months to get that raise? What if we have to consistently work hard to get a promotion?
The same thing might happen when it comes to relationships. We prepare something sweet for our loved ones and we expect for them to be grateful a long period of time. And when we see they don’t show the gratefulness we expected, we get mad at them for being ungrateful bastards. What if instead of doing huge things once (or once in a while), we do little consistent things every single day?
This is what I mean with losing focus. We tend to focus on different things in different days and we might end up losing sight of what we focused the other day and we don’t come back to that. Maybe we need to keep in mind all the things every day, but that is hard… very hard. I know for sure.
I believe we need to make a list with all the aspects of our life and sort them based on priority. Maybe we need to focus on the most important ones every day, the second most important once at every two-three days and so on, but to have everything there… to find some space for every part of our life. And when new things come in, we might need to re-organize that list and re-do the priorities. This way we won’t lose focus in any area.
When was the last time you analyzed where your focus “goes to” and what is your conclusion?