Destiny: A Myth?

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This is a deep topic and I hope I’m as close to ready as I can for approaching it, so let’s jump into it.

In the past three years I got very interested in self-development and I noticed a pattern across all motivational speakers: they all talk about finding your passion and following your destiny. But what if that’s not possible? What if there isn’t a destiny or a passion?

Our current society explodes in this self-help and self-development area and they keep pushing towards doing what you love, which is awesome! The issues appear when “what you love” changes. It’s like eating your favorite food 24/7. I guarantee you that after one year, that food won’t be your favorite food anymore. That’s exactly what happens with doing what you love.

Maybe you’re so excited and you love doing something for 2 years, but then you realize you don’t love that thing anymore and you fell in love with another hobby or passion, there is nothing wrong with trying that for one year or two. You’ll be so much happier this way than pushing against something you loved in the past at some point.

I guess that the whole point of this life is happiness and I believe we cannot be happy if we go against our will, against our mysterious inner universe. So maybe our passion is not one, but many, and our destiny is made out of dozens of them.

I believe our destiny changes based on every decision we make; therefore, our destiny is a harmony between all the destinies we might have…

How often do you challenge “your destiny”?


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19 thoughts on “Destiny: A Myth?

  1. I agree that we are not necessarily meant to do one thing all our lives and we need to be able to adapt. Following our destiny means noticing the changes and adapting to them accordingly (and in time).

  2. I guess it’s kinda true, give or take. I have always wanted to do a job that has something to do with any of my hobby, and just like anything else, hobbies can (or will?) deteriorate. Speaking of which, I seem to recall when that happens, they always say “remember why you start” when we’re no longer enthusiastic with our passion

      1. Then we change. Speaking of, I think doing what you like is like loving a person. If you like and enjoy doing whatever your passion is, you shouldn’t be tired of it. Much like how you shouldn’t be tired of your loved ones

        And just like in a relationship, it’s true that our passion can lose its light over time and we can find ourselves be bored. But just because we’re bored with it, doesn’t mean we completely abandon it, just like we don’t break up with our lover just because we’re bored

        But that’s just a wishful thinking. People are generally fickle, I guess

  3. Funnily enough, I embarked on a return to medical laboratory work this year. It’s going to take me longer than I’d wanted, but after a – mmm – almost 20 year hiatus, I realize it’s my “happy place”. At least where work is concerned. Yes, there are terrible days, and things you see that are just heartbreaking. There are also wonderful, beautiful things that happen that make you feel like you’ve made a difference. Is it my “destiny”? *shrugs* I don’t know if I believe in that, but I do know I love the work.

    1. It’s great if you love your work! You’re one of a small percentage in the world that love it! I guess that the feeling of making a difference is what makes your work so meaningful 🙂

  4. Very cool post, Bogdan! As a matter of fact, I think it’s one of your best.

    Rigid people always cling to old ways of being and old habitual behaviors. People who see the “self” as something amorphous are open to dying to old ways of living and being “reborn” periodically. I have seen this in my own life. There are times when I have been passionate about some activities and ways of being only to lose interest and change after a bit of time passes. I guess that makes me sort of an “explorer” and kind of shapeless. I see life as an exploration. Hell, I’m still trying to find our who this “Troy Headrick” really is. (Maybe he’s not one person but many?)

    I don’t really believe all that strongly in the notion of “destiny.” Destiny suggests that we were born to be a certain way, but people can will themselves to take whatever shape and path they wish.

    1. Thank you very much, Troy, for reading and for sharing your thoughts! I believe that the absence of a (perceived) destiny, personal power takes place and everyone can do whatever they want with their lives!

  5. Yes.., passions often change overtime according to circumstances, age and our living conditions. My irony is, I am good at things I no longer have the same passion and seems not good enough on the things I started to realise I have passion for..

  6. I’m a bit off topic, but I agree with you. First, they tell us there is happiness in freedom of choice, and then, you will be happy following your destiny by conforming to something fixed. I would use the word “calling”. In hear your calling, listen to your voice or even satisfy your own ambition, at least you are dancing to your own song.

    We all learn by example, but that is mimicking, not following. I admired my grandfather’s social and business acumen. I emulate him, but I don’t follow in his footsteps. I do it my way.

      1. I don’t mean to be difficult but meaning doesn’t satisfy me. I’d go for purpose. I like to know where my actions will take me, or what actions will take me to where I want to go. I’m not sure what leads or direction I can get from “meaning”. I understand people want to know why. If you know the purpose, then you know why.

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