The Art of Living

waiting is the hard part pointless overthinking
Drawing by Adrian Serghie

It’s been a looong time since I wrote something and I’m not even sure I know how to do it. Life is so unpredictable that if you try to understand it, your mind might explode.

Actually, this is what happened to me. One year ago, I thought that all I can do is write for the rest of my life and that I’ll be happy. A few months ago, I started to get the impression that writing is a burden and that I should stop (and I did!). Now, I’m not sure, but I do know that there is pleasure in it, I just need to change the strategy. I’ll stop imposing a schedule to myself so it won’t feel like a job and I’ll try writing just as I talk to a friend, otherwise it’s not enjoyable.

The thing is that I got very good at programming so my mind became very logical. I’m also trying to write a thing or two so my mind is divided in two: logic and creativity. I thought I must choose one, but actually, I need both. We all need both just as we need both sugar and salt, light and darkness, happiness and sadness…

What about you? With which part of you do you need to make peace with? What did you rejected for so long when in fact you just need to pay little attention to it?


30 thoughts on “The Art of Living

  1. Brilliant post and welcome back Bogdan 😊

    My body has always been something I’ve taken for granted and not invested in or nourished. I would follow fads for a while (whatever the latest exercise and diet craze was at the moment), enjoy it for a while, boast about it endlessly and then the very thing that gave me pleasure turned into something of a burden and I would quit

    For the last month or so, I’ve begun listening to my body, learning her language and giving her what she needs without an ulterior agenda (like thigh gap in 2 months or 6 pack in 6 months)

    Clearly I don’t know my body at all and can never know her …. because like Nature, like seasons, like the Moon …. my body is seasonal and ever changing and mutable
    Learning to be flexible with my nature is a lesson that cannot be mastered or controlled …. it is a walk of humility, adaptability and kindness

    I’m learning 😊

    1. Thank you very much! Yes, we’re all learning all the time. We just need to make sure not to reject or ignore whatever our body and our feelings try to teach us…

  2. Welcome back!
    I have to agree that I also need both! I think therein lies the reward of writing – being able to branch out into so many spheres. I struggle with balance – not just balancing my writing with the pressures of the rest of life that is happening around me, but balance in the way in which I choose to write at any given time.
    I wish you peace for your journey. And it certainly IS a journey! 🙂

  3. I have also found that trying to keep to a schedule on things you enjoy to do can sometimes take the enjoyment and creativity away.

    I was trying to force myself to work on my artwork once a week, but I noticed that if I wasnt in the right mind set, I would just end becoming unhappy with my work after. I would then get angry that I even wasted my time.

    I feel it’s always important keep attempting to try and do things creative but if I don’t have that drive after a half hour of contemplation, I just have to walk away. I feel there is no shame in that. What’s the point of trying to create something, if you don’t feel truly inspired?

  4. I rejected myself. I made my life unsuccessful. I rejected love. I managed to be alone.
    Who I want to be, how much love do I deserve? What’s my talent? Who can I be?

    For you, write whitout any project or schedule. Just write when you need it , freely.

  5. Yes we need both logic and creativity.
    I also left writing for some time . I think that’s ok. Sometimes we need some time to understand things better and have different perspective of the things.

      1. A lot of thinking and re-thinking things. 😉 I came to the realization that even though I love to create art but I don’t want to do it professionally. It will remain a hobby and I’m ok with that. No more regrets. 😉

  6. Really nice post. And so relevant too.
    I like the unstructured, just write and share approach. No pressure, no deadlines …. just doing it when it feels right. Keep writing …. please, but only when you are ready 😎

  7. Nice to see you back. I’m glad you’re making changes that are benefitting yourself, that you are making peace with yourself and your needs. You asked what we reject that we need to make peace with? For me, I think that would be the girly and feminine side of my nature. It is squashed. No doubt there are a variety of interesting reasons behind that and they tie into the web of my mental health, but that’s less relevant than what I choose to do about it. Small steps. A peach top. Wearing a bit of jewellery. Stereotypical things really while I think about the meaning of what I reject.

  8. Very nice post and I enjoy your writing, never stop 🙂
    I just started writing and struggling to stay consistent, it all feels new to me but I’ll get in the rhythm with daily practice. It feels so good to express myself 🙂

  9. I missed you and am glad you are back. Anything in life that feels like you have to do it and in doing so makes you miserable should be cast aside. You are very good at writing, I just love it.

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