59 thoughts on “Question of the Day – No. 396

  1. Depends on the “thing”. Dishes I can’t stand sitting in the sink, so even though I hate doing them… Social events? Depends on my level of anxiey. Sometimes I don’t create an excuse, I just say no thank you.

  2. If it’s something for myself (like laundry), I try to convince myself that it doesn’t need to be done… But then I do it anyway. Lol If it is something for someone else, like an invitation to an event that I don’t want to go to, I gently tell them the truth: I don’t want to go. 😅 (Is that bad?) I subscribe to the belief that it is better to tell a sour truth than a sweet lie. But that’s just me. 😉

      1. Excellent question! If it’s someone that doen’t know me yet, not very well. But those who know me, like friends and family, have grown to appreciate the honesty.

  3. I lie; not big lies, little white lies: didn’t sleep well, big day tomorrow, no transportation, fill in the blank. I’m not ashamed of this because I know people prefer not to hear the truth.

  4. I agree with the above comments…if said thing also includes spending money, I’ll always go with the classic, “Sorry, I can’t go…I’m trying to save money.”

  5. I ask myself, “Is this the most efficient use of my time?” I usually say no and end up getting frustrated with the mundane necessities of life.

      1. Because I don’t want to do it, because I’m bored, because I have something better to do, because it’s not my job, because it’s not what I really want to do, because I can’t afford to do it, and the list goes on and on..

  6. It’s totally fine to not wanting to to something, regardless if it involves ourselves or others.
    If it’s about others, I kindly say no.
    I don’t make excuses for myself, I rearrange my schedule

      1. Or do something “else” in the now. Instead of focusing on the thing that need to be done, focus on the now, and do something else now.
        For me at least 🤦🏾‍♂️

  7. I deny rarely 😕 Mostly i say ‘no’ to the person who advice me to learn to say ‘no’. I rearrange my works and even my priorities to do what i am asked for. Sometimes, i do say no and end up doing the same denied stuffs while saying it!!!

  8. I’m not up to it, didn’t sleep well because of my ME/CFS. Believe it or not I don’t use this excuse much. At the moment because I’m on a good run with my ME/CFS I’m saying while I’m feeling better I’m only doing what I want to spend my energy on 😊

  9. That’s got me a bit, that question. I just do everything on my terms. There’s no bills to pay, morgage, I have very ltitle commitments. I don’t go to weddings or see family if I don’t like them. I don’t really know how to answer that.

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