Question of the Day – No. 214 Posted on November 23, 2018November 23, 2018 by Troy Headrick What would you like to do, but you think you can’t? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailPrintLike this:Like Loading...
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Meet someone special and move in together.
What is the reason you think you can’t?
I sabotage relationships for reasons I cannot explain.
Would you say that it might be because you don’t want to suffer anymore if you get close with someone? Of course, it’s not an conscious effort.
Do whatever I want whenever I want
Why do you think you can’t?
Because I have responsibilities hahaha
Connect emotionally with people. The subtlety of emotions often go over my head and I hurt people’s feelings or cross the line all the time.
What’s the main blocker for you to connect emotionally with people?
I misinterpret, am blind to, and internally do not harmonize with, other people’s emotional needs and desires.
This was always the case for you or there was a point when this became part of your reality?
I think it was always true.
I won’t know if I can or cannot do anything until I try… I believe that comes under the heading of “living life”… 🙂
“Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.”
― Roy T. Bennett
Is there anything you’ve tried and you couldn’t do it?
There were and are a number of things I have tried and were not able to do, BUT I did not THINK I couldn’t do those things till I tried… I believe I can fly a space shuttle but I haven’t tried it yet… 🙂
“The only thing that stands between you and your dream is the will to try and the belief that it is actually possible.” – Joel Brown
Run. Like run marathons.
Why do you think you can’t do that?
Damaged foot. I tried and tried to run and like it, but never did.
Are you still trying?
be a professional writer 😉
I’m sure you can do it! Why do you think you can’t?
Because I need to make money 😉
Yes, you do. But you can write without those money, can’t you?
Dieting. I would like to diet but I know I can’t 😐😃
You know you can’t? How come?
Because I have tried and failed!
Maybe it wasn’t the right diet? Or maybe you need other changes in your environment for it to work? (like removing all unhealthy food from your house)
But with kids around total elimination of unhealthy food looks an impossible task.
It may seem silly, but I’ve always wanted to be a part of a flash mob.
Maybe it wasn’t one that suited you?
What would I like to do but think I can’t is a complex question. For the sake of my mental health, I’m going to try to keep this simple.
I would like to be able to explore areas of our National Forests I once used to visit, but I don’t think in my lifetime that will ever happen. Most of them have been closed or gated off and the ones that are open require you purchase a $750 a year pass to use the roads for the 7-8 months there is no snow.
It is not the government using taxpayer dollars to close these roads, its big timber companies with timber rights gating off the roads. So our National Forests we pay taxes to protect have been commerciallized so we can’t use them.
Wait you might say, just go get a dang pass so you can use the roads. When you are on state disability, you get money for food and cash. The cash money is for everything like utilities, gas money, medicine, doctor copays and toilet paper. I receive $97 in cash benefits a month, so if I skipped all doctor appointments, trips to grocery store, cleaning up a #2’s and everything else that is not food for 8 months I could buy a pass for one tiny setction of the national forest in Washington. Now that I have the pass I have to save up for three more months to put fuel in my truck to get to the woods and buy a sticker for the license plate so my truck is street legal. Oh geez, forgot car insurance, the state discovery pass (in case I stop anywhere on the county road on the way to the national forest) and one oil change a year to keep my truck running. So for me to spend quality time where I feel at home, it would take 15-18 months of my benefits to cover the expenses.
Dang not simple. I really want to go play in the woods but I don’t think I can.
From my understanding, financial resources are the ones stopping you from doing that?
Sure money is holding me back from getting to that one section. What about the other 85% that is closed to any access?
Well, if you really want it, I’m sure you can break some rules with enough money. Of course, it’s not legal nor moral, but it’s a way.
I can break rules and do anything, but two wrongs don’t make a right. This country was founded on exploration and discovery, yet we can’t explore and discover parts of our own country.
Create something… that I would like myself.
What would you like to create?
Anything really, from a short story to a painting. My biggest priority is music, though, but it’s so difficult for me to compose anything that I would like to listen to myself. Although I keep trying, real results seem far out of reach for now.
Run for President
You can run. Maybe you’d get it!
Be a judge or a full time professional photographer and to have a well-read blog.
Besides lots of hard work, what stands between you and those things?
Basically good credit which as you point out can be attained with hard work. It’s the time it takes that is killing me but I’ll live. Full time professional photography is being forestalled by my lack of knowledge of how to get my name out there, but I think I’m going to take a course to learn those skills.
That sounds like a plan! I’m sure it will bring some new perspective in your life!
Oh! And to have decent enough credit to buy a house!
Go back to college. I dropped out two months in due to a mental health crisis in 2007 and never went back.
Why do you think you can’t go back to college?
Well it’s a bit of. along story. The reason I landed in a mental crisis is that I ad tocope with college while being multiply-disabled (blind, autistic, mild cerebral palsy). These disabilities obviously didn’t go away once I was out of my mental crisis. And colleges here in the Netherlands aren’t very accommodating. I may try some distance learning college though.
I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties you face. The distance learning sounds like a great idea!
I would love to scuba dive but I am terrified of the deep ocean and of sharks. Which is ironic because I am obsessed with anything ocean-related and mermaids.
That’s my fear too! My family wants to travel out of the country but I am so terrified of deep open water I can’t handle the idea of flying to another country.
I’m also very afraid of heights!!
oh god, me too! I can’t even watch some scenes in video games if it shows wicked heights… the new Tomb Raider made me dizzy lol!
Have you seen bioshock infinite? It’s so scary!
no, and if you don’t like things the way I do, I probably won’t want to check it out either !
Ya I would pass on that you travel through the sky and it’s super freaky
yup. through the air and over the ocean.. double no thanks
This is very interesting. I’m wondering which one is bigger. You curiosity or your fear?
Definitely my fear, I very instant panic attacks when I am near deep water
Hi. Have always felt like a bit of a Rebel Angel… Can i get My Wings back please.?.
Well, are you sure you want them?
I want more than anything to explore some of the ancient ruins all over the world. I am a total Ancient Aliens junkie, and I want to go see some of the sites they talk about all the time. Like the old Mayan and Aztec ruins. Or in Egypt, to the pyramids. Problem is, I am terrified of traveling over the ocean. Even the thought of flying over open water makes me feel all panicky..
So the problem is when you have to fly over open water? You have no problem flying over open land?
its the fear of being over open water… if the plane crashed, it would be my worst nightmare!
I want to get my two children to work things out between themselves and have a relationship together again. Not only would it be beneficial for them and me, it would be good for my grandchildren and my daughter-in-law. Especially my daughter-in-law. She has no siblings, had never had any children, and is premenopausal. Her nieces and nephew are the only children she may ever have in her life who are related to her.
What’s the problem between your two children?
I would like to sing, loud and proudly.
What is the main reason you’re not doing it?
Cause it Sounds really awful.
Start my own consulting firm
What’s stopping you?
Time right now. Looking seriously at a writing coach gig though.
I wish you good luck with that gig!
Thank you! I’m pretty far along with the concept. Now to work it into my free time
Turn into Spiderman!
Well, you could find a costume…
Hehe…I mean the real one…swinging and climbing walls
I think you might have to wait some time for that to become real…
Oh…thanks! I’ll be swinging around your house then!
I’ll be waiting!
Would you like to sing and you think you can’t do it?
I think I could hit up some open mic stuff. I want to take lessons- that’s in the cue for 2019. Idk- oddly singing in front of others makes me feel so vulnerable. Yet here I am pouring my guts out on my blog….. go figure?!
Pain physically holds me back from trying, but more so my anxiety and worry about what other’s think.
What would happen if they think badly about you?
Well…nothing, I suppose. I don’t know why I let that hold me back.
If I may suggest something: try thinking about the worst case scenario if you do the things you want to do and think about what others might think of you and how is that going to change your life. If you can go on with your life, are those opinions really that important?
Thank you. I will definitely try this. I’ve missed out on far too much already.