Provided by Bobbie Herron from Aloft with Inspiration A few weeks ago I posted a piece called “Final Chapter…” At the time I had every reason to believe that I would need to discontinue my blog, sketching, teaching art, reading for pleasure…all the activities that had given meaning to my life thusfar, all because of a sudden spike in progressive blindness. I reached out to … Continue reading Why giving up doesn’t work
Have you ever wondered why do we dream? Why some of our dreams are so easy to interpret, but others are so strange? Why do we need to have these “virtual” experiences? What is the reason we keep having them? I think that the main reason of a dream is to blow off some steam for our brain. Why? Because most of the … Continue reading Why do we dream? – Reblog
How often do you compare yourself with some random standards? Moreover, how is that comparison affecting you from an emotional point of view? What about from an evolutionary point of view? Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think standards are bad, especially the ones regarding our health and our safety. The standards I’m referring to are the ones imposed by other people or by our … Continue reading Standards are Overrated
“Who cares? It’s not like the brain can make a physical difference between positive thoughts and negative thoughts!” Well, in his book Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind (2007) Joe Dispenza talks about how do our brains make a difference between these two types of thoughts. Most of us have neurons, right? Between those neurons there is a small gap called synapse. … Continue reading It’s in your head, and it’s physical
Do you ever feel that the world around you makes no sense? Do you ever feel stuck, not knowing the direction in which you’d like to go? Do you ever look around and you see nothing but chaos? Well, that’s how the world works. But guess what? Despite the chaotic actions, deep down, the principles are the same. Whenever we notice the chaos … Continue reading Switch from chaos to harmony
A severe negative emotion interferes with the way we see our future. It can be so bad that we forget emotions are temporary and in those moments, we strongly believe that we’ll be in that state the rest of our lives. How stupid does that sound? And still, it’s very true. Having a depression is the clearest example. Actually, one of the reasons … Continue reading Your Emotions are in Your Way
Provided by Anitha KC “The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts”. Marcus Aurelius Does thinking leads to thoughts or thoughts trigger our thinking? However, we do think! Thinking is essential for us to sustain ourselves. But it is enough to think based on our needs rather than becoming a victim of our own thinking. Our mind has different … Continue reading Think
“In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance is the mental discomfort (psychological stress) experienced by a person who simultaneously holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values. This discomfort is triggered by a situation in which a belief of a person clashes with new evidence perceived by that person. When confronted with facts that contradict personal beliefs, ideals, and values, people will find a way to resolve the contradiction in … Continue reading Does Cognitive Dissonance hurt?
This communication topic is something that starts to fascinate me. The more I learn about it, the more I realize I am a novice at this. I’ll be paraphrasing Terrell Owens who said that we usually are waiting for the other person to stop talking so we can start expressing ourselves. Oh, it would be so good if we wait for that other person … Continue reading Listening to understand vs Listening to respond
Since I write a lot about how thoughts are influencing us and that we should counter them, I thought I should give some example. Below can be found the most typical so called “errors” we do from time to time and a potential adaptive response. Thought: If he doesn’t call me back in the next hour, he probably hates me. Response: Maybe he is … Continue reading Negative thoughts and potential answers
Yeah, I know. It sounds pretty easy, right? Judith S. Beck talks in her book Cognitive therapy: Basics and beyond (1995) about confusions people often make. Let me give you some examples: I feel that he hates me. I know today is going to be a bad day, I can feel I think I’m sad. “Why the f*ck does it matter?” Great question! … Continue reading The distinction between thoughts and emotions
Sometime these days I came across some ancient wise words: “Plant a thought and you’ll pick an action; Plant an action and you’ll pick a habit; Plant a habit and you’ll pick a character; Plant a character and you’ll pick a destiny.” – Random Wise Ancient Dude or Dudette This is exactly what I believe and what I’m trying … Continue reading Ancient Wisdom
Do you ever ask yourself if it matters how you dress? What about the way you are arranging your hair? Yes, I know it sounds like some superficial crap, but there is some psychological background here. I’m going to say yes, it matters, but not because we are all some shallow superficial people, but because looks determines the desire to know that person … Continue reading Does it matter how we dress?
Have you noticed that we’re always thinking that we’ll be happy when we’ll have “that thing”? But have you noticed that we almost never go beyond that? Like, really going beyond. Have you imagined how your life is going to be if you have “that thing” or that person? If so, for how long? A day? A month? But have you ever thought about … Continue reading The “Having” Point
