I was talking with author Lois Roelofs about her newly released book, Marv Taking Charge, and she made the comment that she started blogging back in the day because she was told she needed a platform. As an aside, she said, “Whatever a platform is.” Right – whatever a platform is. Presumably, some sort of online presence so that we can meet and share what … Continue reading Building a Platform
In the summer of 2015, I was pregnant with two projects. The most obvious was my daughter, but I was also about to give birth to a memoir about my father. My father had died in a bike accident the day after I finalized plans to become pregnant by invitro fertilization. His death kicked off an urgency to take the recordings I’d made of my … Continue reading Memoir Writing: Understanding the Why
Our lives are intertwined, entangled like waves merging in the ocean. We see ourselves in others, in the world around us. The physical appearance of our parents, the traditions of our culture and unique intricacies of our closest friends all leave their mark on who we are, and who we become. The ‘I’, our ego, is porous and unbound. It is elusive and cannot be … Continue reading Book Review of The Waves by Virginia Woolf
Is there anything beyond the futility of the external world, governed by fierce competition, ambition and baseless pleasures? Where does one take refuge from the constant treadmill of busyness that encapsulates our day to day working lives? One is inclined to ask, is there anything outside of the status games played within our society, trying impress others through fame, fortune or luxury consumer goods. A … Continue reading In Search of an Inner Life
We all love a good hero story. They supply us with inspiration and hope. Many follow a typical narrative structure that we have become familiar with. An individual, against all odds, overcomes immense trials and tribulations to achieve their goal. From ‘rags to riches’ stories to the spectacular feats performed by our favourite superheroes, these tales continue to be pervasive in our culture. But what … Continue reading Looking Underneath the Surface: A Review of George Eliot’s Middlemarch
The 2022.jpeg is coming to a close, and it’s been a wild ride. I put my 2 week’s notice in for my job in May, traveled to 15 countries, moved to Germany, started a master’s program, and am back celebrating the end of the year with my family. How did I find time to read 102 books this year? First off, I bought an ereader … Continue reading I read over 100 books this year and here are my recommendations
Just imagine, you’re sat fat, dumb and happy when BAM! Your engine shits itself. (And so do you.) Suddenly you’re forced to divert. You need to get on the ground pronto! Before you know it, there you are. Grounded with a bum engine – a million miles from the original destination you had in mind. So, you find yourself sat around in your underpants on … Continue reading A Radical Idea. (I’m Going To Write a Book.)
A poem on the search for peace Continue reading The Mysteries of Nature
Here’s a fun question for a Friday afternoon: If someone wrote a book about your life, what would the title be and why? Top marks for the best one. As a pilot, one who has struggled with both depression and anxiety, I would call mine Clear Air Turbulence. In case you were wondering, it’s an aviation term defined as “the turbulent movement of air masses … Continue reading Question of the Day: No. 539
I’m sorry, yo. For a lot of little and not-so-little things. . . . I’m sorry for all the times I thought I knew better; I’m sorry for not realizing the limitations of my own world view. I’m sorry for making To-Do Lists while you gave instructions I later needed. I’m sorry for snapping when you asked a question I already answered. I’m sorry for … Continue reading SnapDragon Speaks: On The Apology.
Over the years I realized how different perspectives coming from different people can change our own perspective about everything, and, therefore, our life. The most important part is that we don’t even to know those people or directly interact with them, but we can interact with their perspective through their writings. Throughout my life, whenever I was in a tough place, the only thing that … Continue reading Top 5 Books That Changed My Mindset
I should say that I’m currently working on a new book, but if I’m honest, I must admit that I’m not working on it at all. The sad part is that the most of it is done since May this year and I haven’t open any of the documents ever since. Why? That’s a great question! I don’t really know why… maybe it’s because I … Continue reading The Struggle of Writing
“What if I feel no emotion when I think about my goals? Does that mean I have bad goals?” The answer to this question depends on how you are from an emotional point of view in other circumstances. This question might help: On a scale from zero (rocks don’t feel anything) to 10 (I have liquid emotions instead of blood), how intense do you … Continue reading Focus, focus, focus
This question came to me while I was writing yesterday’s post. So can procrastination become an addiction? If so, why and what can we do about it? Even though we all know that procrastination is a problem, I don’t we think about it as something very severe. However, procrastination is a big blocker in our evolution because time passes by and time is cruel and … Continue reading Can procrastination create an addiction? Two reasons why this might be true!
This potential lack of proper social skills is one of the things that creates problems when we interact with other people. It’s funny how this people problem can be solved by spending time with people. It’s not funny that this people problem creates social anxiety so we avoid people because if it. Do you see the problem? It’s a fucked up loop. One of the … Continue reading Ego is always a trigger
Provided by Quynh Vo from Unbound Wallflowers When I ask this question to those people around me, they reply with either “What is it?” or “You mean my hobbies?” It is hard to see one who knows exactly what he wants to do with his life and devotes all of his energy to it. You can ask your surroundings to see if one can come … Continue reading Do you know your Why?
“Who cares? It’s not like the brain can make a physical difference between positive thoughts and negative thoughts!” Well, in his book Evolve Your Brain: The Science of Changing Your Mind (2007) Joe Dispenza talks about how do our brains make a difference between these two types of thoughts. Most of us have neurons, right? Between those neurons there is a small gap called synapse. … Continue reading It’s in your head, and it’s physical
Uhm, no, I haven’t invented the word. It’s something that goes way back to King Ramses, but it didn’t had this weird name (source – Wikipedia). It seems that the name was “invented” by Samuel Crothers, or at least that’s what an The Atlantic Monthly article stated in 1916. Ok, the name is fancy, but the idea behind is pretty simple. The bibliotherapist … Continue reading Bibliotherapy – The therapy through reading
One of my most interested fields in psychology is that of dating and understanding how to find and interact with our romantic partner. There is no doubt that if you are in a relationship or married, that you haven’t been through some sort of emotional or mental rollercoaster with your partner. That’s just part of the process, and more often than not, we resolve whatever … Continue reading The Most Important Thing(s) To Understand About Your Relationship
In our post industrial, feminist world, its not as clear a it used to be what a man is or what he should be. We live in a world, in which feminist groups often associate man’s masculinity with ‘tyranny’ and as a result believe in degrading men’s masculinity. Centuries ago, a mans duty was power and protection. Decades ago, it was to work and provide. … Continue reading How To Be An Attractive Man