Pee and decision: two words that I never thought I’ll put together in the same sentence, but it seems there is some science involved. Who would’ve thought that we can change our life right before we pee. Let’s hold it in and go through this. In 2011 Mirjam Tuk and her colleagues came up with an experiment to test the question “What happens when people … Continue reading Pee – The way to faster and better decisions
I don’t think it’s because we’re lazy even though sometimes we are. We’re procrastinating only when we see something negative in the things we do. Doing those things would lower our current state of mind and we want to keep it “high” as long as we can. The interesting part is that we’re not keeping our state that high because only the thought … Continue reading Why do we keep procrastinating? – Reblog
In my opinion, movies are the closest thing to a complete expression of an idea. A movie has words, images, music and behavior and all together can get the closest to what it’s in its creator’s mind. If we think about this, sometimes a movie can have an only purpose – to get that idea out in the world. It might be considered a … Continue reading Thoughts about Movies
Yesterday this hit me: our emotions in a certain situation are not always triggered by that situation, but we don’t realize it. I know, I know… this doesn’t seem to be so much of a revelation. It’s obvious that sometimes we come with our emotional baggage in each new daily life. However, I believe there is a different side of that. Imagine the following situation: … Continue reading Ego and Emotions
Did you ever get the feeling that you’re overwhelmed by all the things you need to do and that some of them that once brought you joy now they only bring you anxiety? Have you ever thought that you might need to let some of them go for your own sake? It seems that the more we do something, the harder it gets to let … Continue reading Learning to let go
Provided by Scherezade Ozwulo from Scherezade’s Labyrinth Insecure is not the word I want to use, yet it is the word that had affected me yesterday. As much as I get those “no effs given” days, seems equal parts insecure days arrive to level the playing field. If that’s what is happening 🙄 I guess sometimes a little insecurity is needed to create balance within a person. … Continue reading Therapy Post: Insecure
Most of the times we look too judgmental at people that have too much pride. When this happens, I’m asking myself what this self-pride means and where it comes from. Every time something happens and we don’t like it, some sort of denial kicks in and some automatic thoughts go through our head, like this can’t happen to me; it must be some mistake; it can’t … Continue reading The Self-Pride Defense
Provided by Madhvi from madhviledwani What you understand by self-care, is to maintain your cleanness or does is sound like to have a good manicure/ pedicure or blah blah. Self-care is not reflected by all these things, it justify that you must have a sound mind. It reflects you are healthy enough that your mind protects any unauthorized thoughts coming to your mind. How many times it … Continue reading SELF CARE ISN’T SELFISH!
This is not an easy question. We are used to place this happiness into so many people and things that we might forget one essential thing: we are responsible for our own happiness. But what does this mean? In my opinion, this means that we shouldn’t wait for someone else to make us happy. Yes, we can be happy with someone else, but … Continue reading Who is responsible for your happiness? – Reblog
These days a very interesting idea popped in my mind: is our judgmental opinion related to our instincts? Maybe we are somehow programmed to judge other people as a survival instinct. Maybe we cannot help ourselves doing it. Crowd and survival As you know, in our early days, our survival as individuals and as a species depended of our crowd. The stronger we were, the … Continue reading Judgement: An Instinctual Thing?
Does it happen to you that whenever you have a great idea about something, immediately your mind is filled with automatic negative thoughts about why it can’t get real? And if this happens, do you find solutions to counter the negative thoughts or you just drop the idea? If you drop the idea, I think that it’s because of the fear… fear of losing something … Continue reading Fear – our biggest obstacle?
Anyone can name their friends, right? But how do you differentiate between friends and acquaintances? The amount of time you spend talking with them? The things you say to them? What kind of things you say to a friend? If you think a certain person is your friend, does that person think the same? It’s about thinking that someone is a friend or is … Continue reading The “Friends” Debate – Reblog
Do we live in the same reality? No, this is not some conspiracy theory, neither some Sci-Fi perspective. Let’s just think about this for a minute or two… what it is real for me, it is real for everyone? How do we define what’s real and what’s not? If I see, say, think and believe that the sky is orange it means that it is my reality … Continue reading A quick look at Reality
Have you noticed that lately there are more and more interactions on social networks, but less and less in real life? How is this possible? There are the same people, right? Apparently not… I think that from behind of a screen, we can create the identity we want and we can twitch that based on identities created by other people, but in real life … Continue reading Social networks, but anti-social people
I often find myself full with strong feelings like anxiety or anger and even the most insignificant things can trigger an inappropriate response full of rage from my behalf. As I pointed in an older post, to get in control of my emotions I have to get in control of my thoughts. The process of monitoring and understanding our own thoughts is called introspection. Letting our … Continue reading Mindful Introspection
As part of my daily routine I observe people, including myself. While doing this I try to develop for myself a habit of asking additional questions so I can have a better understanding of what might go on in my observations. Because of this, I’ve noticed something interesting: even though I can logically understand something, I just can’t accept it because it doesn’t feel right for me. … Continue reading Understanding VS Accepting – Reblog
As humans, we deal with countless emotions daily and some of them can change our mood and that affects our thoughts and our behavior. To better understand why this is happening and how to control our emotions, we need to understand what triggers them. Are we in complete control over our emotions? Not quite, but we can control our thoughts about those emotions and this … Continue reading Overview about Emotions
Many times I’ve wondered what are our true reasons we behave as we do. Is it our purpose in life? What a purpose in life really represents? Is it going for something or is it running from something? Based on what we decide how should we act in every moment? I’m proposing a theory based on two feelings: pleasure and fear. I think that most of the time … Continue reading The Pleasure and Fear Theory
I came across an interesting experiment about how physical experiences affect our interactions with others. In 2008 Lawrence E. Williams and John A. Bargh found out in their study Experiencing Physical Warmth Promotes Interpersonal Warmth that something as simple as the temperature of a coffee can have an influence on us judging the others. This is how their experiment worked: forty-one students have been placed in … Continue reading Physical warmth and interpersonal outcomes – Reblog
Have you ever wondered how much time do we spend thinking about what others think about us? But how much time do we spend thinking about others? How are these two answers affecting us? In my opinion, sometimes it affects us more than it should. Here are some words that got stuck in my mind: “I am not what I think I am. … Continue reading Others and their concerns about us
