a note on trauma

trauma is a still-unhealed wound, still carried within oneself traumatic event, or traumatizing event, is the thing that caused the trauma often ‘trauma’ is used to mean traumatizing event. this seems fine to me, so long as the meaning is understood. However, The distinction between trauma and traumatizing event is perhaps not widely understood or recognized. Do you see why this is a good difference … Continue reading a note on trauma

HEALING THE WOUNDED CHILD

I spend considerable amounts of time around my nieces and nephew. Partly because they are home with my folks. Partly because COVID-19 has restricted my movements. Partly because they are the most adorable beings I have come across. They are nine (eldest niece) and twenty months (twins) respectively.  Bar sickness, once they are fed, bathed and their diapers changed, they are the most stress-free children. … Continue reading HEALING THE WOUNDED CHILD

WISDOM FROM THE MOTHERLAND

I love literature! I am deliberate about being diverse in my reading. I try to read as much literature from as wide a geographical pool as I can. One of the things I have discovered is that literature from different parts of the world have certain distinguishing features. For African literature, the one distinguishing feature is the use of proverbs. Long before formal education as … Continue reading WISDOM FROM THE MOTHERLAND

SnapDragon Speaks: On The Same Side.

I fondly remember the days of grammar-school playgrounds; of brown-bagged lunches; of field trips to museums, caverns, and coal mines. I remember the sense of belonging within those classroom walls. There was a constance amongst us kids: a comradery that strengthened with each lesson, each game, each talent show. The questions we asked were not stupid, but welcomed. We were family. And as the decades … Continue reading SnapDragon Speaks: On The Same Side.

The “What If?” Game

By Troy Headrick I was lucky to have been reared by interesting and intelligent people who taught me much about life during my earliest years. My maternal grandfather, a man I called “Pawpaw” when I was just a wee thing, was a rancher, and because I spent years living with my grandparents, I acquired much knowledge about the great outdoors, the nature of work, tending … Continue reading The “What If?” Game

ON WRITING

Billy Osogo The Covid-19 pandemic has greatly changed life as we knew it heretofore. With severe restrictions on movement imposed by most governments, there’s only so much one can do. Part of what I have had more time to do during this pandemic is to read widely. There’s something exclusively inimitable about the written word. It’s ability to teleport the reader to rooms, worlds and … Continue reading ON WRITING

SnapDragon Speaks: On Herself.

-Previously posted on Snippets of SnapDragon– So I sat down with amateur blogger SnapDragon X., to ask her a thing or two about life. She wore an over-sized teal dress/shirt thing, which she said seems to have become her unofficial uniform as of late. Her polka-dotted leggings undoubtedly completed the Practical-Mom outfit. Plus, there may or may not have been a smear of child-snot on … Continue reading SnapDragon Speaks: On Herself.

Question of the Day – No. 513

By Troy Headrick I believe that we get from others what we give to them.  In other words, if you show others kindness, you’re apt to get kindness in return.  On the other hand, if you treat others disrespectfully, you’re likely to be disrespected quite frequently. What is one thing you believe?  I look forward to reading your responses.  Troy Headrick’s personal blog can be … Continue reading Question of the Day – No. 513

The Only Thing The World Needs From You

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – HOWARD THURMAN (SOURCE: THE LIVING WISDOM OF HOWARD THURMAN: A VISIONARY FOR OUR TIME) I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, ‘what do you mean the ONLY THING the world needs from me?! The world demands EVERYTHING from me!!!’ ‘It … Continue reading The Only Thing The World Needs From You

I Didn’t Read The News Today, Oh Boy!

By Jack Canfora In my experience, there is only one true way to tackle a diet: failingly. This perhaps explains why I am becoming the answer to the seldom asked philosophical question, “What would Orson Welles have looked like if he weren’t a genius?” Having said that, I’m happy to report that my latest diet has been largely successful: a steep reduction in my news … Continue reading I Didn’t Read The News Today, Oh Boy!

True Self-Esteem

Not long ago, I read something about self-esteem that seems important to share. It’s a distinction between contingent and true self-esteem. Or rather, a distinction between self-esteem, and something that looks like self-esteem, but isn’t. Gabor Mate puts it like this: “Self-esteem based on achievement has been called contingent self-esteem or acquired self-esteem. Unlike contingent self-esteem, true self-esteem has nothing to do with a self-evaluation … Continue reading True Self-Esteem