My life is hectic right now, so I am not able to write consistently. But I miss you all! I hope everyone is doing good!
The hectic nature of my life recently made me think of something that some of tend to do, me included. We want to control things and when we cannot, we feel stressed. That is one major reason we get more stressed during chaotic times, in addition to the fact that we might have to do a lot of tasks (which might be physically and mentally tiring on its own). The extra stress we get makes us feel the urge to control things.
Sometimes, the reality is that we cannot. What happens then?
Sometimes, I try harder to control things and guess what. It does not fix anything. For example, recently, I had to talk to a lot of vendors and organizers. I wanted to get things done in my time frame, but it did not work out because the situation involves other people. I have to accept that when dealing with other people, my timeline may not be theirs. I cannot control their times. If I do not accept this fact, I end up beating myself up more.
So, the main solution seems to lie in acceptance: accepting that we cannot control everything and accepting the fact that we might need to bend our rules at times. I am not entirely good at either, but I am working on it.
What do you think? Do you tend to control things more than you should too? How do you deal with the stress? If you are not like this, what makes you keep calm? Let’s discuss.