Question of the Day – No. 386 Posted on May 14, 2019May 14, 2019 by Troy Headrick What is your main source of negativity? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailPrintLike this:Like Loading...
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Ohh… Externally or internally? Externally I’m going to say those that focus on negative/destructive habits or events. I find those people to be absolutely draining, and I try to avoid them. The ones I can’t avoid, I try to find something to do with my hands to keep my mind otherwise busy. Being creative is my armor against absorbing that.
Internally, well, that’s a lot harder. I’m getting better at catching the negative thoughts as they surface and scooping them out. Where did this thought come from? Why am I holding on to it? Does it serve me? Many of the negative subroutines were “meant” to be motivational – instead they came to be abusive. So – instead of saying “I’m crap at math, and always will be” I need to look at where that thought came from. Learning the multiplication and division tables up to 12 when I was in first grade, and my Dad being a really impatient and crappy teacher, with spankings for getting answers wrong is a huge factor there. I know there are some things I’m not going to grasp – that’s OK. I can still figure out percentages or fractions really quickly, and that makes me a better cook. I can do math that some can’t.
I find it very interesting that you try to deal with both the external sources and the internal ones. You don’t let your negative thoughts consume you and you don’t consume them. You try to understand their origin. I’m sure that the more you’ll practice, the easier it will be for you and you’ll be able to tilt your mindset balance towards positivity until negative thoughts won’t even come anymore.
That’s the goal. I don’t like who I am when I’m feeling or being saturated in negativity. Guess who gets to change that? This cookie, that’s who. It’s worth the work.
Right now it comes from all the bad feedback and truths about my stories. Its to a level where I can’t write much at all just now.
Is that feedback pertinent or it’s just stupid ramblings? What can you take from it to improve yourself?
At the moment, my social networking accounts. Friendships vs people we just talk to so we don’t feel alone vs getting attached vs not letting getting myself get attached vs what I post, why am I posting it and what good does it do to post it, and how others react. Ignorance, playground tactics, it gets to a point where I just want real, genuine, authentic communication, & when I feel like I’m not getting it, it’s my fault, I’m not doing things right, I’m not worthy, I’m not enough, and then mix in self pity and then anger for self pity… geez. That’s a whole bundle of negativity I’m working on just dumping into the bin and wiping the slate clean lol
Maybe you could treat that negativity as another person and try to communicate with it?
Anxiety about the future.
How come? What about the future makes you anxious?
What is going on inside my head…that’s the biggest source of negativity. My inner critic is a bi**h
What it keeps telling you?
My inner voice is a bigger critic/source of negativity than anything external. I’m harder on myself than anyone else could ever be.
Does that motivate you to get better or it’s lowering your self esteem?
It depends on what the inner voice is saying. If it’s just yammering about something I know not to be true, I tell it to hush and ignore it. If it’s nudging me to tend to something that really requires attention, then I do. My self-esteem is pretty sturdy at this point in my life.
Main source of positivity… Same
I hope it’s more positive than negative.
Other people, work is an unhappy place with loads of people complaining. Left to my own devices I am generally a bouncy happy person.
My work is pretty much the same so I use my headphones a lot.
Other people to be honest.
What about other people create negativity for you?
Negative attitudes from them about everything. Then there are those people who complain about their lives and yet do nothing to even try to make a small change. People who try and force their beliefs on you, or way of life etc.
Inconsiderate, dishonest and selfish people mostly. But today its a few people at my F’ing JOB. Unless you don’t classify rage under negativity.
On long term it’s negatively impacting our health, so it’s negative. Do you need to interact with them daily?
more often than not.
My appearance. I am marked out by my illness. I cannot be anonymous.
I’m really sorry you have to go through such hard times… I don’t know if you can do anything to change that, but if you can’t, you need to find a way to deal with that so you can make life worth living again…
Oh, my life is worth living! I am happy and much loved and liked. It’s just, as a woman, my appearance matters to me. Some men don’t mind how I look at all. I just avoid mirrors…
People complaining but not doing anything about it, which is pointless. I believe in being the change you want to see.
I think you probably know that saying that everybody wants change, but no one wants to change. It’s easy to complain, but it’s hard to do something about that.
Indeed I do. I almost feel that people do not have the right to complain unless they’re doing something about it, specially when it comes to voting in the U.S. Often times less than 50% of the population gets out of bed to vote and decides the futures of the country. There’s a literal majority that could change the country should they want to, but that’s a topic for another post. 😉
I so agree. I try to be the change I’d like to see too.
Admittedly the biggest source of my negativity at times is myself: fear of pains from the past, fear of the unknown, fear of what ifs? Thats why I force myself to stop, breathe and be in the present when these negative thoughts come. Can be quite challenging, but it works
The more you take on the challenge, the easier it becomes to deal with it. Since when you started to deal with your fears this way?
Since a couple of years ago when I hit the wall and started to do a 180 degree in lifestyles, etc. thats’s also when I realized that life should be lived fully, peacefully, without regrets and with a purpose. Thats not to say I don’t slide back to my anxiety – I often do! But there is support with faith, family and friends, so I literally remind myself to look at the bright side when these thought bubbles happen
It starts with our crazy politics.
Yeah… politics are always huge sources of negativity…
How often do your thoughts do that?
Quite often actually
The more you think about something the more negative you feel.
If you keep thinking about something that someone told you, you begin to find hidden meanings in there (that are not even present) and you begin feeling more and more negative.
That’s a side of overthinking that hurts so many people…
The ongoing learning process of letting go of what I can’t control/understand/ change.
Maybe it’s negative now, but you’ll feel so much better once you master it.
I’d like to think so 😊
Out of context…. Can we share others tweets in the blog???
Do we get penalized by google??
I think we can share others tweets as long as we specify the source and we don’t use them for commercial purposes. As for google, why would they penalize us?
If we monetize our blog is it legit to share others tweets
Only if we have their approval.
What we eat What we listen What we do is What we are… We are born to attract the easy ways…. like Negative thoughts… Being negative is easy but being positive needs atmosphere good food good thoughts. Of course the more negativite the more positive we are. Equilibrium
Yes, it is easier to be negative rather than positive. I guess a great approach is to be realistic.
Other people. Predominantly individuals who feel like the world owes them something or the ones who are only consumers. In most cases, there are either radiators or drains. Producers or consumers.
So arrogant people and sponges.
My constant bad feelings about myself.
Where do they come from?
Mostly from depression and anxiety. :/ My mom and younger sister have a similarly negative self-image.
𝙼𝚢 𝚖𝚊𝚒𝚗 𝚜𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚌𝚎𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚗𝚎𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚒𝚗𝚌𝚕𝚞𝚍𝚎 𝚖𝚊𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚝𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚖 𝚖𝚎𝚍𝚒𝚊 (𝚘𝚏 𝚊𝚗𝚢 𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚍) 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚗𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚘𝚏 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚜.
𝙸𝚗 𝚘𝚛𝚍𝚎𝚛 𝚝𝚘 𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚒𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜, 𝙸 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚝𝚘 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚗𝚎𝚠𝚜 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚏𝚝𝚎𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚗 𝚠𝚊𝚝𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚝. (𝚃𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚑𝚎𝚕𝚙𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚖𝚢 𝚊𝚗𝚡𝚒𝚎𝚝𝚢, 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚌𝚑 𝚒𝚜 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚗𝚎𝚌𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚗𝚎𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚝𝚢.)
𝙸 𝚊𝚕𝚜𝚘 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚝𝚘 𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚒𝚍 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚎𝚡𝚑𝚒𝚋𝚒𝚝 𝚋𝚒𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛, 𝚗𝚎𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚋𝚎𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚒𝚘𝚛. 𝚆𝚎 𝚊𝚕𝚕 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚙𝚕𝚊𝚒𝚗 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚒𝚖𝚎𝚜, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚘𝚋𝚜𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚗𝚎𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎–𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚙𝚘𝚜𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊 𝚌𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚊𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗–𝚍𝚘𝚎𝚜 𝚊𝚋𝚜𝚘𝚕𝚞𝚝𝚎𝚕𝚢 𝚗𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚋𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚖𝚎 𝚍𝚘𝚠𝚗. 𝚂𝚘 𝚒𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚎𝚊𝚗𝚜 𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚕𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚊𝚝 𝚕𝚞𝚗𝚌𝚑, 𝚜𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚒𝚝.
That’s why I’m always alone at lunch 🙂
How come? Can you give an example?
Myself for sure. I am my own worst critic. I will never feel good enough, smart enough, thin enough, pretty enough etc.
Those “enough” are for what? Good enough for what? Smart enough for what?
Good question, for myself, for society, for my family? I’m not sure. I’ve just never felt enough for anything.
i think…its my mistakes of the past. i always fear of them and can’t stop being stressed.
Do those mistakes have any way to influence your present?
yes. unfortunately, they have made me emotional , a lot. Small things can make me cry.
I overthink too much maybe.