Question of the Day – No. 311 Posted on February 27, 2019February 27, 2019 by Troy Headrick How do you deal with rejection? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailPrintLike this:Like Loading...
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in my simple way – I say to myself the person who rejected me or my opinions was just a wrong recipient; I will encounter, sooner or later, a proper one
This is awesome! that’s how I try to treat rejection too.
When one door closes, it’s because a better one is waiting to be opened. <3
Yes, awesome! 😀 Love it!
From a person Not well….I’m learning that it doesn’t mean I’m a bad person or did anything wrong. It solely is based on another opinion-and it’s their loss. From say a writing/photo place, I can let it go much easier. It’s not personal.
It’s hard when it’s personal… but then again, even if it’s personal, it’s not so personal… as you said, it’s related to other person’s point of view.
I used to take it to heart and it hurt. It used to stop me from going further. Now I use it as motivation or I try not to pay it much mind.
Using it as a motivation is one of the greatest approaches! Prove them wrong! 😀
It used to bother me, now I feel less pained, If someone likes me it’sgood, if not, that’s also good. Nevertheless I notice that acceptance feels better, I’d rather be accepted than rejected, but not at any cost.
Used to bother me, but now I figure it wasn’t what was best for me
No, it wasn’t. What helped you to diminish its influence?
If I were rejected by someone I would respect their choice, but I would wonder why i was rejected too.
How does that wondering process make you feel?
Sometimes it makes me feel suspicious.
I don’t; not very well.
How does it manifest?
Acting like I’s above it all; internally screaming.
I just move on because you have to anyways.
How fast do you move on?
Anywhere from 2 to 5 days.
I try to figure out what I did wrong and try to use that as a way to improve as a person.
What if you did nothing wrong?
Then I try my best to forgive and forget (which is easier said than done)
Then move on to bigger better things
How much does that crying state last?
Move on… 😉
“You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last chapter.”
That’s true! Does it have any effects on you or you just move on right from the beginning?
Contemplate and Wonder…
A peaceful Friday Morning, watching the sun arise
Thoughts abound, while sipping on a spot of tea,
While taking in Nature’s outdoor portrait
Contemplating, on what Fate may have instore for me.
Change is slowly coming, it whispers in the winds
The door is slowly closing on past history,
With a new awakening with the mind and spirit
But the future is still shrouded in mystery.
With the freedom of being different, in many ways
No social shackles do this mortal wear,
Do welcome change with open mind and spirit
No fear, no worry or dread do I bear.
Does change stop at mortal death, one wonders
Or does it go on forever and ever,
Will I ask the same at another time and place
Somewhere past the 12th of Never?
Will thought and spirit continue
When, as in all things, time comes to an end,
Or does all things cease to be when
To the grave, the mortal body Fate does send.
Alas, but must deal with the present, this Friday
So now will store thoughts and musings yet to be told,
For it’s down the path least traveled I do venture
To search and hopefully find….what life, and Fate, may behold.
( Larry “Dutch” Woller )
Tell myself that life isn’t over yet!
Awesome! That’s right! 😀
For me it depends who is doing the rejection. Friends and family rejection hurts especially if they don’t state why they’re saying no. This can lead to overthinking and criticising ourselves. If it’s anybody else, I would be like ‘whatever, it’s just not meant to be, this time’ and try a different plan, after all there are 26 letters in the alphabet right? But no matter what, we must learn that we can’t control anything other than our own reaction, so we can look at rejection as a negative or find the positive and carry on
Yeah… I guess that regardless the source of the rejection, we can flip its meaning from negative to positive if we truly want that.
Better than I used to. These days it is job rejections…I get angry then sad, then focus back on what might’ve happened and try to fix it.
How long do you stay angry and sad?
It depends..mostly on how much I wanted the job. No more than a day or two.
Introspect and forget that it happened. But, introspection is important.
If you think about your past, which rejection was the toughest to deal with?
Depends on who has rejected me. Either I don’t give a f&*^$^ or I cry alone listening to Bon Jovi and never look back at the one who rejected me. Vanishing into thin air. For real now, If it has to do with work I guess I try to better my performance. If it has to do with friends I will probably ask. If it has to do with a lover, well I guess he is not that much into me. I did experience it recently, hurts like hell but I guess you have to respect people’s choices and try to make peace with yourself. And if someone doesnt want you in their lives, I believe you should not force your presence onto them. Disappear from their lives, mostly for self preservation reasons, and make peace with yourself. Plus rememeber we all have rejected someone or something at least once in our life. Excuse the long comment.
Don’t apologize because I love long comments! When we get rejected from other people’s lives, we tend to take it very personally and I don’t think it’s the best approach. Maybe in time we realize that all that matters is our relationship with ourselves. If that’s ok, we can deal with everything.