Question of the Day – No. 295 Posted on February 11, 2019February 11, 2019 by Troy Headrick How many negative friends do you have and how is that negativity affecting your life? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailPrintLike this:Like Loading...
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None anymore. I make allowances for bad days, etc… Drama queens and psychic vampires get the axe anymore though. I’ve let people like that ruin my quality of life for too long in the past.
What made you say stop and get rid of them?
I try not to surround myself with negative people. We all have bad days, but if someone is negative all the time, I tend to shy away from them. I am very sensitive to other people’s emotions and find negative people to be physically draining.
They are… it’s exhausting to see that everything is grey and they don’t enjoy things.
I don’t have negative friends. I keep the vampires apart as Silk Cords do! We have no time to waist with people that behave like that.
No, we don’t have time to waste. I would like for those people to try to understand what big of an influence does that negativity has.
I don’t have them anymore but they drain your life force so quickly so there just not worth it.
What made you decide to remove them from your life?
That I didn’t need those people in my life. I’m not very good at making friends but I don’t have to keep in contact with everyone I’ve ever met because that’s not healthy or even viable.
No friends. But, some acquaintances. Sometimes people are in your life so you can share God’s love, not because they’re pleasant to be around. Not a popular idea, I know! 🙂
And when you share that love, do they get it?
When you find solutions to your friends problems & they match every one with a negative excuse as to why it won’t work, there is only so much you can do to help. In the end, these people are not my people. There dramas are not mine, their issues are not mine and I learnt last year that no matter what you do to help you can’t save anybody. So I walked away. My friends, are only human, they’ll have negative days and I’ll always offer to help, but negativity attracts negativity and that’s not how I want to live.
Negativity is much more contagious than positivism. Without the willing to change that, people will stay in their negative world.
Yup – I’m on board with the comments so far. I have dropped the negative folks, or called “bull feathers” on them (then they drop me). I feel so much more peace in my world when I’m not being hammered by their drama.
Saying that, there are folks that I love dearly who are going through some ugly times. I’ll stand with them, and not judge, unless they decide that’s all there will ever be for them. If someone makes the call that they are always the victim” – I’m out. I can’t help them. They have to see for themselves that they have answers.
Yes! There are people that have some real tough times and it’s normal to feel blue. But when everything is okay and still something negative is expressed, that’s a clear sign that the person doesn’t want to see what’s great in life.
Maybe one or two. It took a few years to end almost all of my “toxic/negative” friendships.
I know how you feel with the toxic people . I lost a friend a few years ago for being toxic . I had to cut her out of my life and it sucked. But life is too short to spend time with negative people who bring you down .
How come you kept those one or two?
I’m still preening my friendship tree of the last few negative branches. All the major drama llama’s have been thoroughly put out to pasture. Feeling so much better for it, although the memories of better times with those people can be painful to reflect on.
True, but the good thing is that nothing can take those experiences from you. They’re sealed in the past.
Zero thankfully. Too much of a drain!
Awesome! Life is much better now, isn’t it?
I have few close friends some of which include my fiancé and some family . The only negativity that comes from having a few close friends is the annoyance I face trying to make plans with my work schedule. I work as a tss ( therapeutic staff support )- working with children with behavioral troubles. I love my job but not the notes lol . They take forever… but in all seriousness, it’s not my friends or the notes that’s the real trouble . My trouble is time management. It’s a working process and I’m trying to find ways to make it work more in my favor and spending time with everyone. It’s needed though despite how rough it is to mange my time . Spending time with them makes me calmer and happier and gets me out of my head. Having adhd and anxiety and a loved but also demanding job, making time for those who build me up is needed. It’s needed for all of us .
Time management is a challenge sometimes because we have so many things to do and they all seem to be important. A tight schedule might work, but it will be tough.
I don’t have any negative or bad friends, because i trust them and they trust me and give me more of positive action!! That’s the good person i am! Nice question!!!! <3 🙂
That’s awesome! Keep it up! 😀
I’m getting much better at not allowing myself around those people. It can be hard when it’s family
It’s always hard with family and with every relationship in which hard feelings are invested…
I recently redid my life. The count is now 0. Once upon a time though, way too many.
How come you decided to cut them off from your life?
A couple of negative friends that act extremely positive, but under further inspection it’s just their way to mask their negativity. It did affect me at one point but I chose to emotionally detach and observe. It’s quite interesting. I think the negativity stems from their own experiences, so they judge others maybe to feel better about themselves or their lives. And sometimes they blame others even for the slightest things that might go wrong. When you start observing all that, their negativity doesn’t really bother you, you’re just curious to see where it leads them. Plus they work really hard to come across as positive.
People almost always judge others to feel good about themselves. And yes, if we manage to get past the emotions and just observe, we can learn very interesting things about people 🙂
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That’s great! :)))
I kind of wiped them off all in the last few years. Before I was surrounded by them, without even realising it; now I have negative contacts only if obliged (colleagues at work etc.) and I feel ten times better!
That’s great! What determined you to wipe them off?
All the changes I went through and the sudden realisation that I was feeling ten times better being more lonely, but not surrounded by toxic people anymore.
Zero. I said goodbye to my negative friend and now i have only one very positive and supporting one
That’s awesome! 😀 How hard was it for you to say goodbye to your negative friends?
There was only one. And not that hard because we both said goodbye. I’m not really that attached to people.
I have less now than I had a few years ago because I broke the connection since it wasn’t helpful at all.
Negative friends is such a negative term, and as Foest Gump say, “ negative is as negative does”
Well, since it refers to negativity, I think it’s normal to be a negative term. When I say negative, I refer to things that are harmful for our wellbeing. And with positive I mean helpful.
If we learn from a so called negative experience is that helpful and therefore positive.
You can see that simplistic dichotomies can be very confusing which can be negative or positive depending one one’s definition and approach to such experiences….maybe.
It may well be that what we think is negative is actually positive and what we think as positive is actually negative and maybe we are all heading for the neutral or middle of the dichotomies.
True! I guess it depends on the viewer’s point of view! 🙂
Ha, reading these comments on “negative people “ by people that all sound soooo negative. Has anyone thought that labeling a person as negative is a very poor way to object to their behavior. Perhaps, instead of labeling someone just inform them that we object to their behavior and why and that should suffice.
Worth a try.
Based on your experience, how do people react when they are informed as you just said?
A work in progress, my friend, but needless to say I only have one real friend and he happens to be my brother and business partner. So by default, and due to this process I have no “negative “ friends.
But that’s not to say that the way I have objected inthe past has been perfect or ideal. So I probably have appeared to many people that I am a “negative person “.