Question of the Day – No. 284 Posted on January 31, 2019January 31, 2019 by Troy Headrick What kills (or killed) your dreams? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailPrintLike this:Like Loading...
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other people. the things they say, or do. they remind me how impossible or pointless of an endeavour it is… because my dreams and aspirations are usually so contrary to their own ones.
We need lots of strength to be able to stand against those voices. We have that strength, but without the confidence, the strength won’t come up.
I have a pretty fiery relationship with my husband. We are both intensely passionate people. He gives me that confidence to do whatever the hell I do. But we’re like every other married couple and have our bad days too. And when I feel really stressed or depressed, because of whatever tiff or miscommunicated misunderstanding we may have, it reflects in my writing. I can’t write without him. I can’t do anything without feeling strong in my relationship with him. He is my cain. It is both good and not good (but NOT bad/evil) all at once. And today is a (very) good day. 😎
That’s awesome! Congratulations! 🙂
Nobody being interested in my books despite my attempts to make myself known to the world.
Can you share some of your books?
Yes my books range in topics with a fiction book being my latest work. You can see them all if you search on google Angela Goodwin Amazon or type my name directly into amazon.
I suggest you to give your best and know what your readers need. Don’t make getting recognized a goal. Do the good work and you will be recognised.
Best of luck😊
One cannot know what the readers want if they themselves never say.
So you should find more ways to interact ao you can get their views
I have done but really this boils down to the well known phrase, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink
If the horse does not find water from any other place, it will definitely drink from your well to quench its thirst.😂
So make your content like there is no other one like you .
I wish you good luck for your next books.
I do try but one also has to appeal to the masses to get them to pay attention.
In your opinion, what is the main reason for this apparent lack of interest?
Not being able to connect with the majority of people because I don’t think like them. A lack of understanding between the two groups.
Reblogging to my sister site Timeless Wisdoms
Again, thank you very much for your reblog! <3
My pleasure. I hope to be returning to a regular posting schedule soon, and able to catch more of your posts. Have a great day 😌
Nothing or no one can – only I can do that!
How often do you do it?
I no longer do it…instead I work on achieving my dreams daily in the form of goals.
When other people say it’s not worth the time since it’s not making any money
Maybe it’s not making money now, but nobody can predict the future. If someone told you that you can make money through short videos on the internet, you would’ve been called crazy. YouTube proved it different. Never stop believing and always keep going!
Self doubt and other people’s doubt in me
In your opinion, what’s the main reason for this?
Fear of failing and distractions
What can you do about that so you can keep going forward towards making your dreams come true?
Me. I’m too practical for my own good.
Would you say that your dreams are not as practical as they should?
Inability to give meaning to my dreams. That is, inability in taking them from being raw and putting them in a framework that will allow me to achieve them.
What can you do to turn the inability into an ability?
I honestly dont know.
Myself; mostly self-doubt or overthinking. Both play a huge role in my fear of taking risks or stepping out of my comfort zone to chase after my dreams.
What’s the worst thing that could happen if you go for it?
Rejection. I have a nasty habit of taking rejection personally, but I am slowly learning to see it as a form of constructive criticism.
What can you do to kill that fear?
Usually finding something to be optimistic about helps. Trying to find out more about what I’m afraid of helps sometimes too. Last resorts are taking deep breath or 30, or running for the hills ;P
Also, thinking about a good outcome, like getting credit card bills paid, and providing for my little one.
I thought I had killed them myself by not acting on them for decades but they are alive and starting to take root.
Yes! Our dreams never die. Hope the tree of your dreams grows fast 🙂
Maybe it’s time to take a different approach.
Lack of motivation, plus bouts of depression and debt
What can you do to motivate yourself?
Make a schedule and stick to it
Lack of motivation but that’s also because I don’t really have a clear plan or understanding of the steps I should be taking to achieve the goals needs to reach my dream. I tend to ask myself questions just like this just because it makes it easier for me to figure out what actually is blocking my path to success and how do I overcome that obstacle. I feel like the more we learn to reflect on what we need to get don the more we learn about ourselves. Also most people are fearful. They have ideas or dreams they would love to pursue but are afraid of certain obstacles in their way. It’s more or less people try things one time and if it doesn’t work then obviously it was a bad idea. I’ve learned that kind of thinking is always going to prevent you from moving forward to what you want. Then all it is, is a waiting game. Waiting for the right time, waiting for money, people etc. The time is now. Thanks for the question, it really has me thinking now! 🙂
I totally agree with you that the time is now! Regardless the plan or the steps, do you have a dream? What is that dream?
Lack of funds and hesitation.
Which steps don’t require money, but they can push you forward towards your goals?
I’m not really sure since my almost lifelong goal has been to relocate to New Mexico and every time I’ve thought I had the chance I didn’t have the funds needed. That’s something for me to think about… perhaps I wasn’t meant to relocate after all.
Maybe, but I still think there are some tiny steps you can make even though you don’t have the founds needed.
I think you’re right, I could take steps to be ready to take any affordable options that might arise there and not hesitate as I’ve done in the past. Without fail hesitation has caused me far more grief than good.
People saying, “Shut up.”
In your opinion, why do they say that?
People have a sick desire to control the world around them, and this often translates into a need to destroy others’ autonomy.
The box myself and others put me in, the bubble wrap that convinces me the world is dangerous, the looks of concern when I become too animated.
Some parts of the world are dangerous, but not all of it. If your courage was able to destroy that box, what would you like to achieve?
Fear of what?
Fear of harm… so many things. The Lord gives me strength. Without Him, I’d be paralyzed in fear. ♥️
1) Financial reasons
2) Lack of awareness
3)Sometimes our own limits and instincts
What would you like to do if you had unlimited money?
I will not need to work and I will do whatever I want .Travel the world, music, learning more about our brain and poetry
Self doubt and (honestly)… memories of my father. He’s supportive now but he can’t erase my childhood.
How are the memories of your father affecting you now?
They just pop up at inconvenient times that have nothing to do with my dad. It throws me off every time. I’m processing it well, it’s just a long process! Thanks for asking. 👍🏼
Have you ever “scheduled” some time to try to understand where are those coming from? Maybe it can help…
Oh yeah, I have and I continue to!
My ex Randy Holt killed my dreams and made my dreams nightmares. He was abrasive and murdered my Dexter and likely going to get off on less than a felony cause even though he admitted to our and is a psychopath no one cares enough to put the Asshole psychopath in prison where he belongs.
That sounds very tough. I hope you’ll find ways to resurrect your dreams, or create new ones, despite those difficulties.
I am trying but sometimes I feel I’m stalled with winter and being in the process of court. I know one goal I have and that’s getting the hell away from this town.
Financial stability need! I wanted to write, to make a living out of it, my blog, my book… But I had to accept that I need that 9to5 desk job and the salary that comes with it 😉
Can you do the writing after work? Or maybe before work?
Indeed, I am doing it, hence my blog 😉 And I managed to be published by an Italian publishing house a few years ago. But there is no financial return from these activities so I gotta continue to be at my desk daily 😀
Keep going! the financial return will eventually come.
Mental health – not being diagnosed, or being misdiagnosed, and then inappropriately treated. I’m looking forward to new dreams; keeping the blog alive, getting healthier; rescuing cats… There’s some peace in that shift.
You are an example for me because you somehow manage to control your difficulties most of the time and go forward with them. And when you can’t, you can’t. But you don’t let those moments decide your future.
Thank you. Your words hit a sweet spot in my heart today.
the answer to the question lies in the name of the blog… pointless over thinking. Besides this, I think low self-esteem is the biggest culprit in my life…
In your opinion, where is that self-esteem coming from?
The fear of regretting big changes.
What changes would you like to do if that fear wasn’t there?
Start my life somewhere else but I can’t seem to let go. Also there are others to think of too.
What would you like to do in that new life?