A Flow State of Mind … More A Jazz State of Mind: Entering the Flow State
Recently, a friend sent me a printout of a sermon that my dad, who was a Presbyterian pastor, gave on parenting 36 years ago. She had a printed copy and kept it filed away. Now that her kids are long grown, she sent it to me. In it, my dad gives a quick synopsis of … More Good Mood of the Soul
Do you think your life looks like a hamster in a wheel, that you turn around and around without living the life you want? To live the life you want you may read and follow some advice taken from the method Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy, developed by Albert Ellis (1913-2007), an American psychologist. The basic … More Living the Life You Want
The other day my friend, Eric was over and started telling a story that had us all rapt, including my almost 7-year-old daughter and her friend who usually dismiss grown-up talk as boring. The story was about a summer job when he was in high school as a tennis instructor at a little neighborhood beach … More Telling a Good Story
What Is Extraversion? Extraversion breaks down into the following two fundamental aspects: assertiveness and enthusiasm. Those high in assertiveness are the take-charge types. The so-called natural-born leaders. The game-changing alphas. (It’s a valuable trait for a pilot, I might add.) Those high in enthusiasm are talkative and charismatic. They’re the life of the party. The ones who … More Extraversion: The Price of Now
The search for meaning is inherent in the human being. In Japan there is even a specific word to define the importance of having a purpose in life: Ikigai. The Ikigai refers to the individual motivation, the one that makes us get out of bed every morning and that gives us the joy of living. … More Ikigai: the Search for Meaning
At a meditation retreat I attended a few years ago, the leader off-handedly told a story about a moment when she was doing a large group meditation practice with the renowned meditation teacher Jack Kornfield. The six of us sitting around laughed politely at her description of 500 people doing a slow walking meditation practice … More The Best Kept Secrets are Boring
Would more money make you happier? Let me tell you a story. Markus Persson, a Swedish 36-year-old business man, spends his time on Twitter, where he talks about his life and that of his company. One day, he twitted something that will change his life. Markus created in 2009 the video game called Minecraft, a … More Would More Money Make You Happier?
Not, of course, negative in the sense of bad or unpleasant. How could … More Happiness defined negatively?
As humans we spend most of our lives in a state of perpetual craving and desire. We land a big promotion at work, but soon fantasize about continuing to move up the corporate ladder. We become consumed by discontent and dissatisfaction as we constantly compare our social standing to that of our peers. Wealth, status … More Escaping the Rat Race: Lessons from Buddhism
I have a friend who like me, also works in the IT industry. But what he’d really like to do is be a winemaker. The frustrated winemaker in him expresses itself in several ways – remoteness, depression, anger and resentment. But he stays the course with his job because he has a family that he … More The Weight of the Provider
Epicurus’ analysis of happiness is one my mind returns to periodically. … More Epicurus and Genuine Happiness
Why would you let go of the past? You have for sure nice memories, and lessons learned, which shape your personality. But letting go of the burden of the past would be important to your happiness. At least some of it. Many people live in the past; they remember their behaviours, the love stories that … More Let Go of the Past
There is a direct relationship between ageing, physical, and mental activity. People who adopt a sedentary and passive lifestyle after retirement accelerate their ageing process. Lack of movement diminishes the body’s responsiveness and few social relationships inhibit intellectual abilities. We could also add loneliness to see the ageing process accelerates. Spending the day without stimuli … More Late Bloomers: Instructions For Use
Life is constant change, Buddha and Aristotle already said it: change is a fact of life. But change has also been accelerating in recent decades. Massive disruption across the social, technological, political and environmental dimensions of our lives means that we are constantly trying to figure out how best to manage uncertainty. And for someone … More How to Embrace Change
Apparently most of us have a default level of happiness. No mater what our station is in life, we are all slightly dissatisfied. Slightly. Life is just never quite good enough, even when it really is. This default happiness level readjusts depending on your circumstances. Even if something great happens to you, like winning the … More The Pursuit Of Unhappiness
Hi everyone! Let’s talk about emotions today. I want to talk about them in a pure observational way. No trying to understand, no whys. The main questions I am curious about is whether there is a dominant feeling in your life and whether there are specific emotions associated with specific times of the day. Starting … More Emotions
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – HOWARD THURMAN (SOURCE: THE LIVING WISDOM OF HOWARD THURMAN: A VISIONARY FOR OUR TIME) I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, ‘what do you mean the ONLY THING the world … More The Only Thing The World Needs From You
We all honor our own innate ideals of happiness. Our conception of “the good life.” Composing and recomposing our lives around this archetype of euphoria. But that’s the thing. … More Different Definitions of Happiness: A reflection.
“You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end — which you can never afford to lose — with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality.” – VIETNAM WAR. ADMIRAL JAMES STOCKDALE Do you want to know the one reason you’re not happy right now? It’s because … More The Hopeless Nature Of Hoping