Why are some relationships harmonious and happy and others seem like a struggle? Why does a personal or professional relationship that seemed good suddenly become difficult? The explanation can be found in the dramatic triangle and in the role played by each of us, according to the theory of Stephen Karpman, a transactional psychologist. Let’s look at an example. Suppose that you spend the day … Continue reading The Dramatic Triangle and The Role We Play in It
Hi everyone, I hope everyone is having a good beginning of 2021. Today’s topic is challenges. Rather, how we behave when we face challenges. Life comes with some bumps on the road. It is not ideal to expect to have a life in which everything goes as we plan. The first step in dealing with challenges is to accept that there are challenges. To accept … Continue reading Challenges
Hello everyone, We are in the last week of 2020. What a year it has been! From its conception till now, event after event, shock after shock. This extremity is why I think we need to reflect even harder on how this year has been for each of us individually. This is what I want to do in this post. Here is my reflection. PS: … Continue reading Reflections
Hi everyone! Until recently, I have struggled with the idea of an ‘uncertain future’. I grew up in a family of government workers. In Turkey, if you work for the government, you are guaranteed for life. You have job security, full health care coverage etc. So, I valued guaranteeing things. But I also have this side of me which sort of does not want to … Continue reading Living with Uncertainty
Hi everyone, I hope you all had a good week! I had a good one and I have been having good weeks lately and I want to talk about why. Spoiler: Routines made a big change on how my weeks turn out to be. I have always had this perfect life in my mind where I have established certain habits and have a routine based … Continue reading Routine is the Spice of Life
Situation: Peter has got a job offer in a country far from his home country. The job pays well and is a significant upgrade from his current job. He will have to stay there at least 5 years. The question that is bothering him is that he does not know anyone in that country and he will have to build everything from scratch (setting up a … Continue reading Brain-Storming 8
Hi everyone! Let’s talk about challenging ourselves today. We constantly hear that we need to challenge ourselves for personal growth. Our workout should be such that it is not too easy, nor just the level throughout. Rather, it must challenge us a bit. This will lead to bigger strength. If we are afraid of something, say of traveling alone, we should start with places we … Continue reading Challenge: Lack of Safety?
When you think about your dreams, how important are they for you? What are you willing to make so you can make your dreams come through? What obstacles are between you and your ideal life? Would you like to overcome them? How are you going to do that? Life is not easy and it’s not meant to be easy. If it would be … Continue reading You need to challenge yourself!
We live in a society and it seems that whatever the majority of the society does and thinks is viewed as normal. But how appropriate that is? Just because most people do it in a certain way, does that mean we all should do it? Should we accept whatever people think it’s normal as part of our life just because that’s what they think? … Continue reading What is “normal”?
I’ve mentioned in my post about the movie Anon that the detectives appeared to be excited when they had to catch a killer not that easy to catch. This concept is very easy to be seen in the TV series Sherlock where Sherlock Holmes states and shows whenever he got the chance how excited he gets when he has to solve a tricky crime. … Continue reading “Challenge Accepted”