Question of the Day – No. 167 Posted on October 7, 2018September 27, 2018 by Troy Headrick What can you learn from the people you dislike the most? Share this:TwitterFacebookTumblrLinkedInRedditPinterestPocketTelegramWhatsAppSkypeEmailPrintLike this:Like Loading...
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How to spot a master manipulator.
How do you spot it?
Not so easy, it takes time to observe the inconsistencies. But generally it’s about noticing all the hypocrisy. You can’t tell if they’re manipulating you if you don’t know them, just as well as if you don’t know yourself.
Actions speak louder than their words.
Yes! Actions always speak louder than words!
I remember the first time I met (my now brother in law), I told him my name. And apparently my reputation preceded myself! He said to me “I’ve heard a lot of bad things about you.”
I laughed and was like “Ok. Well, instead of believing everything you hear, why don’t you get to know me first and then make your own mind up.”
I like how you behaved in that situation. You know how and who you are and you don’t let rumors define you! That’s awesome! 😀
I was 18. Words of wisdom from an unreliable miscreant youth. 😉
But still… words of wisdom 🙂
Thank you 🙃
How to avoid them. LOL
Toxic people need to be avoided.
How to treat other people
How come you learn from the people you dislike the most how to treat other people?
Wouldn’t you say you are more observant of those you don’t like verses those you do like? Or maybe it is just me.
I guess so. But it’s very important what’s the purpose for that observation. It can be either to spot any negativity coming towards us so we can respond to it or to understand the main reason for it. But yeah, you’re right. I do that too. I like to observe all people 🙂
It is totally true. We are wary around those we perceive as threats so we watch them like a hawk. As if prepared for any strike. And the people we do like we are comfortable with them, so we lower our guards and just enjoy the moment. Unless we’re mistrusting and suspect.
That truth, logic and reason mean absolutely nothing when pitched against a winning slogan.
Oh yeah! Marketing is everything!
Appearances are everything!
More about yourself.
What have you learned lately about yourself from the people you dislike the most?
I can be abrasive or negative which could elicit a reaction from certain people I dislike.
That they don’t care if you know about their duplicity.
True. If they cared, they wouldn’t have it in the first place.
I learn what I need to change about myself. I’m of the opinion that people reflect back to me something I dislike about myself.
Or maybe they reflect something they need to change about themselves.
I find that I am more capable of change than they are able to change.
That’s true. I believe we need to change if we want to and it needs to be our decision 🙂
So true. 😊
What not to do and how not to act 🙂
In general or around them?
How not to act and if I see that trait in myself, to correct it.
When we see other people behaving in a certain way we don’t like and after that we catch ourselves doing the same thing, it can be a wake-up call.
Absolutely it can! I’ve corrected some behaviors just because of it.
Each person is different so the only thing I can learn is to have the same open mind and patience with each and every person/creature I encounter or meet… 🙂
Words of wisdom 🙂
We can learn a lot about the values we hold and how we apply meaning to situations and behaviour. We dislike them for a reason – it tells us more about ourselves than it is about them.
I totally agree with that! If we understand why we dislike them, we get one step forward with our self-development process.
How not to treat living beings.
That’s an asset as well.
How to not act.
The power of example is impressive! Even though it’s a negative one.
Your greatest adversaries are your biggest teachers.
They truly teach you about you.
How are you going to react?
What’s the outcome?
They give to greatest tests
That’s how competition in commerce works. Can we get stronger if we don’t have something worth fighting for?
Just like working out, if you don’t challenge yourself you don’t get better
That it’s OK to put myself or my family first.
That no matter how amazing you think you are doing in life, you still need to be humble
Yes! Always! Because you truly are amazing, there is no need to prove it.
I learn patience and ways to control my mind and behavior.
How to still treat them with respect.
That is indeed a provoking lesson to learn.
Very difficult but very important for our own selves.
I guess the easiest thing to learn would be learning how not to behave or what not to do so you don’t become someone like them. A bit more difficult lesson would be learning how to start liking them in order to avoid negative emotions.
Yes, it’s a tricky experience.
How not to be (act, speak, carry myself).
We need this kind of examples as well.
Often, what we dislike about another is something we wrestle within ourselves. What we can learn from those we dislike is to examine self. We can also learn to find something good in those we dislike and move forward.
Yes, we often project our own fears and impressions in other people.
The things they do that I do not like, particularly their attitude or personality that I hate, make me realize what I should become as a person. 🙂 The things that I should not do. 🙂
We need bad examples as well so we can learn what is not acceptable for us and for the others.