It’s mostly my weight weighing on my insecurities. It’s like a seed was planted and it keeps growing now matter how much I get rid of it. Nobody is telling me I need to lose weight (except a doctor, but I don’t count that lol). I just…can’t help but feel sad when I look in the mirror.
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I understand… in your opinion, what is the first step in improving this?
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To be honest…I’m not entirely sure. I would say that it takes me looking at myself in the mirror and saying, ‘no, nothing is wrong. You got this and you know what? You’re awesome and beautiful.’ and meaning it.
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Try writing 5 reasons why you love yourself and read it each time you feel like thinking something bad about yourself.
My blog is really about the mood, feeling, emotion, bright side, dark side or the nothingness I feel that day. Sometimes with humor sometimes with tears. My feelings of self-worth and failure come from all of my issues, some days more strongly than others, but is always with me. As my blog unfolds and depending on what my mind says is the entree of the day explanations of what has made me feel or act the way I do will come into view. I have to be in a certain frame of mind to share things. I hope you can help with those feelings as sometime they weigh me down. Help and understanding is never turned away.
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What changes in your state have you noticed since you started writing on your blog?
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I would say 2 things have changed. 1. Some days i still struggle with writing my blog, especially after days of spending hours either writing or commenting on blogs I find interesting. Part of my bipolar disorder, I manage some how to force myself to write and entry on those days. So that i guess is a positive if you look at it that way. In my past i would have not made a entry and eventually gave up, I don’t want to give up so forcing myself is the obvious choice. And 2. I find it easier to talk about certain things in my life and past in my blog rather than my family, friends or even my therapist . some things are hard enough to remember without reveling them face to face. I don’t know if i would call this a positive it feels more like therapy to me. but still a good thing,
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If it helps you is some ways, it’s definitely a good thing!
Issues with depression and ingrained thoughts from childhood. Oh, and shitty men I’ve dated.
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Depression is a tough concept and all those shitty men did not help with it. The good part is that despite all the shit you’ve been through, you somehow found a way to move forward and this proves that you’re stronger than you might think.
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Yes… I often forget that. Thank you for reminding me. 😊
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Anytime! 🙂
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That maybe I’m not good enough to get my books published, or that maybe I’m just too weird.
Each person is “weird” in an own way, but I choose to say unique instead of weird. For the first part, I’m going to say what Peter Dinklage said: Give yourself permission to fail.
There are just a little too many beliefs I need to change if I want to reach my goals. I will maybe write about this on my own blog, but I guess lack of self-worth is at the core.
Thank you I am actually in tears at the moment but its different tears , they are relief tears of my hero letting him go , the negative thoughts i had and accepting his love and protection finally
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what you doin
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I’m ok. Yesterday I wrote the first pages for my book 😀
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That’s awesome , what is your book going to be about
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It’s going to be about our minds and about perspective 🙂
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Very interesting the question is how is your perspective , our minds are filters and we enable them the good and bad
But it sounds great if you ever needed help I am here
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Thank you! The idea is interesting and hopefully I can find the most appropriate words to express it.
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Maybe if you like go through my posts and take like quotes and stuff just note you got it from there your welcome to do that I trust you
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I’ll keep that in mind. Thank you! 🙂
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That’s okay but your very intelligent and can put anything together , I will buy your first copy
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Thank you for your kind words! 🙂
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To know that I don’t need approval from others to go after my goals
It’s like I need to talk to someone about it to hear them say something like, hey go for it! You can do it! Sounds like you have a great idea, go for it. Mostly from family, I seek their approval to feel it’s safe to take a chance, instead of listening to myself and just trust I am making the right decision. In my mind this makes logical sense ti me, but in my heart it not necessary to seek approval.
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Maybe it’s because you’re afraid of failure and judgment and you seek support from your family, not necessarily approval. I’m going to say it to you: Go for it! Whatever that it is! You might fail, but it’s ok. You might also succeed. If you don’t try, you’ll never know and you have to live with the regret of not trying your whole life. If you don’t try, you definitely fail.
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Thank you so much for that advice! I am afraid of failure & that makes sense, I am seeking support which my family has never questioned my goals. They have always encouraged me even though I questioned myself more than anyone! And thank you for cheering me on, I will share my goal. It is to eventually work for myself, have a lifestyle to where I can work at home, still earn a living and spend time with my son. I can do this!
I need to stop thinking lowly of myself…
I think it would help you improve your life. Please let me know if you think I can help you with this.
It’s mostly my weight weighing on my insecurities. It’s like a seed was planted and it keeps growing now matter how much I get rid of it. Nobody is telling me I need to lose weight (except a doctor, but I don’t count that lol). I just…can’t help but feel sad when I look in the mirror.
I understand… in your opinion, what is the first step in improving this?
To be honest…I’m not entirely sure. I would say that it takes me looking at myself in the mirror and saying, ‘no, nothing is wrong. You got this and you know what? You’re awesome and beautiful.’ and meaning it.
Try writing 5 reasons why you love yourself and read it each time you feel like thinking something bad about yourself.
I’ll do that. Thank you!
That I’ll die before I ever finish.
What would you like to finish?
The stories I wish to tell.
If your wish is big enough and you act upon that wish, I’m sure you’ll tell the stories you wish to tell. 🙂
believe I have self worth and not a failure
Believing that you have self worth can change your life in better. If you think I can help you with this, please let me know.
My blog is really about the mood, feeling, emotion, bright side, dark side or the nothingness I feel that day. Sometimes with humor sometimes with tears. My feelings of self-worth and failure come from all of my issues, some days more strongly than others, but is always with me. As my blog unfolds and depending on what my mind says is the entree of the day explanations of what has made me feel or act the way I do will come into view. I have to be in a certain frame of mind to share things. I hope you can help with those feelings as sometime they weigh me down. Help and understanding is never turned away.
What changes in your state have you noticed since you started writing on your blog?
I would say 2 things have changed. 1. Some days i still struggle with writing my blog, especially after days of spending hours either writing or commenting on blogs I find interesting. Part of my bipolar disorder, I manage some how to force myself to write and entry on those days. So that i guess is a positive if you look at it that way. In my past i would have not made a entry and eventually gave up, I don’t want to give up so forcing myself is the obvious choice. And 2. I find it easier to talk about certain things in my life and past in my blog rather than my family, friends or even my therapist . some things are hard enough to remember without reveling them face to face. I don’t know if i would call this a positive it feels more like therapy to me. but still a good thing,
If it helps you is some ways, it’s definitely a good thing!
That I’m not worth being loved.
😢 Oh no! Of course you are!
Thank you 😊
What makes you say that?
Issues with depression and ingrained thoughts from childhood. Oh, and shitty men I’ve dated.
Depression is a tough concept and all those shitty men did not help with it. The good part is that despite all the shit you’ve been through, you somehow found a way to move forward and this proves that you’re stronger than you might think.
Yes… I often forget that. Thank you for reminding me. 😊
Anytime! 🙂
That maybe I’m not good enough to get my books published, or that maybe I’m just too weird.
Each person is “weird” in an own way, but I choose to say unique instead of weird. For the first part, I’m going to say what Peter Dinklage said: Give yourself permission to fail.
Struggling with this today – To have the confidence to **act** on what I want, and what I deserve.
From what reasons you think you don’t have enough confidence?
There are just a little too many beliefs I need to change if I want to reach my goals. I will maybe write about this on my own blog, but I guess lack of self-worth is at the core.
From what reasons do you think you have a lack of self-worth?
All the negative ones lol
Starting with…?
I’m not good enough
i am in the process in doing this , my negatives are positives just waiting for a solution
That’s a great perspective shift! 😀
Thank you I am actually in tears at the moment but its different tears , they are relief tears of my hero letting him go , the negative thoughts i had and accepting his love and protection finally
what you doin
I’m ok. Yesterday I wrote the first pages for my book 😀
That’s awesome , what is your book going to be about
It’s going to be about our minds and about perspective 🙂
Very interesting the question is how is your perspective , our minds are filters and we enable them the good and bad
But it sounds great if you ever needed help I am here
Thank you! The idea is interesting and hopefully I can find the most appropriate words to express it.
Maybe if you like go through my posts and take like quotes and stuff just note you got it from there your welcome to do that I trust you
I’ll keep that in mind. Thank you! 🙂
That’s okay but your very intelligent and can put anything together , I will buy your first copy
Thank you for your kind words! 🙂
To know that I don’t need approval from others to go after my goals
What things go through your mind when you’re thinking about going after your goals?
It’s like I need to talk to someone about it to hear them say something like, hey go for it! You can do it! Sounds like you have a great idea, go for it. Mostly from family, I seek their approval to feel it’s safe to take a chance, instead of listening to myself and just trust I am making the right decision. In my mind this makes logical sense ti me, but in my heart it not necessary to seek approval.
Maybe it’s because you’re afraid of failure and judgment and you seek support from your family, not necessarily approval. I’m going to say it to you: Go for it! Whatever that it is! You might fail, but it’s ok. You might also succeed. If you don’t try, you’ll never know and you have to live with the regret of not trying your whole life. If you don’t try, you definitely fail.
Thank you so much for that advice! I am afraid of failure & that makes sense, I am seeking support which my family has never questioned my goals. They have always encouraged me even though I questioned myself more than anyone! And thank you for cheering me on, I will share my goal. It is to eventually work for myself, have a lifestyle to where I can work at home, still earn a living and spend time with my son. I can do this!
Yes, you can because it’s up to you!
That no one will listen to me
What message would you like to transmit that should be listen?
I’m not sure yet, but I guess that will be whatever I want to say at that point.
The belief that I won’t be able to reach a particular goal or the fear to start it.
What goal would you like to reach and what makes you think you are unable to do it?
I want to excel in my career but my family life is a barrier at present as my son is small… Plus how to start is the biggest problem with me.
Try searching for people that did it and try to find out how they did it.
Yes, I will, Thank you so much..
Anytime!