The “I’m alone” Circle

The having point   Have you noticed that more and more young people suffer of loneliness and some of them get depressed because they can’t get into a relationship? Their appetite for life pales and they cannot find joy in life anymore because they think they can’t find someone to be in a relationship with. Sometimes this happens because they have crushes on wrong people or they just wait to be found and loved.

   I’m saying it’s a circle because the bad moment it’s interiorized so much they think that they are the problem. In addition, because of this they are isolating themselves thinking that all hope is lost and that they’ll be alone forever. Because of this isolation, they won’t be able to meet new people from whom one might be the right one.

   Yes, I know it hurts. Yes, I know it all might seem hopeless. Yes, I know you’re afraid of trying because you might get hurt again, but you know what? If you try, you’ll eventually find someone right for you, but if you don’t try, you won’t find that person. Imagine that your perfect half is somewhere out there isolating himself/herself from other people. If you do the same, how do you think you’re going to find eachother?

   Get out there, get hurt, live. The more suffering you’ll have, the more happy you’ll be when the right one shows up because there is a balance in everything.

32 thoughts on “The “I’m alone” Circle

  1. All are gonna end up hurting us ultimately. Coz humans are complex.
    Its about seeing what aligns with ourselves. As a kid we all feel there is a right one, wrong one. I think there are many right ones at each moment of our lives. Its about connecting with an open heart. Whats inside you will show outside as well. If you connect with people out of fear, you will ofc get hurt.
    but its all a package. We cant have the roses without thorns always.

  2. also i have seen pets/dogs never make you feel lonely 🙂 but at sametime they involve a lot of responsibility. Same with people.. sometimes we don’t want the responsibility of relationships… its easy to be alone… idea is to draw a balance

  3. Good points. I think it’s hard, though, if you don’t find the depth of connection that you’re yearning for, it gets exhausting continuing to try.

  4. Alone and lonely are not mutually exclusive. One can be lonely in a large crowd and right at home on their own.

    Thank you for choosing to follow one of my blogs. I do hope you continue to enjoy the posts. 🙂

    1. It’s been my pleasure! I always enjoy a post full of meaning! Thank you for taking your time to write this comment.

  5. Even worse than not being in a relationship is being in one that isn’t working, or losing one you were happy with. People need to learn to live inside themselves, before seeking to expand that.
    Thanks for following which is appreciated.
    My best wishes to you, Pete.

    1. You’re totally right! I tried a deeper insight about this in my post Who is responsible for your happiness? Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

    1. Or a cat that’s not crazy! I still think that the best long-term “fix” would be to go out and meet people.

  6. And on the other side of this same coin, individuals should learn to be happy by themselves. We don’t NEED another person to be happy. Being in a relationship with another person can certainly help make us happy, but true happiness comes from within. Excellent post!

    1. Thank you! Yes, I totally agree! True happiness comes from within, but people that are in this stage of their lives are convinced that it comes from outside… when someone is convinced about something, it’s very hard to show another path…

  7. I recently had my fair share of hurt and my defense mechanism was to retreat into my shell. But I guess you’re right, if my soulmate were to isolate himself too, I’d probably never meet him 😊 Love your blog! Good to meet a fellow over thinker… Haha.

    1. Thank you! It requires lots of strength to get out of your shell, but it can also be more rewarding. At least, it’s a step forward 🙂

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