The Heart Always Wins

This post is going to appear like a major detour from my usual topics related to consciousness and enlightenment, but it does contain a little information related to the law of attraction. The law, which many persons may find questionable, or outright unbelievable, is that we bring about what we think about. This can also be expressed as follows: We don’t get what we want; we get what we are. Let the detour begin:


When my twenty-year marriage abruptly fell apart in the fall of 2006, I did my best to heal and move forward…quickly. At that point in my life, impatience (primarily with myself) was part and parcel of my life. As a result, I literally forced myself to transition as soon as possible, even if my heart was figuratively dragging its feet. Through the intervening years, however, I have arrived at the unshakeable belief that the heart always wins, even if it may appear otherwise. The detour sign points this way:

When I was first attempting to put Humpty Dumpty back together, I used to tell myself a story every time I began dating a new potential partner. By this, I don’t mean that I lied to the women I dated; I mean that I habitually allowed my mind to lead me away from the wisdom of my heart. I would tell myself (then) that I didn’t know what it was like to be dating at the age of forty-eight, let alone to fall in love. Due to that, I ended up dating various partners whom my “heart” (essential nature) already realized could never be compatible partners. This is not to say that the women were wrong in any way–just that our life paths weren’t aligned. During the next couple of years, my mind’s compass needle swung to the other extreme, and I would find myself saying “no” almost immediately to almost every potential relationship.

It’s taken a lot of years, and plenty of time spent in solitude, to learn this: The heart always wins. You can try to fool it, push it, cajole it, bully it, coax it, bribe it, and ignore it; but if you allow yourself to settle for anything less than heart-pounding true love, the relationship is almost doomed from the start. I believe this principle also applies to other aspects of our life. This is not to say, however, that lessons related to contrast are not valuable; for through those trials we also learn valuable lessons. Just for the record, the Bible states this principle clearly in Proverbs 23: 7:

For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

I don’t think this means that attraction for a partner who seems quite different never occurs, or is ill advised. In fact, our differences often add great spice to life. As far as relationships go, just don’t try to fool your heart in the process of discovering more about yourself and your next potential partner.

Dare to dream (and care for one another).

With hearfelt regards,


Copyright Β© – 2022 – R. Arthur Russell


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14 thoughts on “The Heart Always Wins

    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment! I’m glad you enjoyed the post! πŸ™

  1. Thank you for a lovely post.
    I agree, “The heart always wins. You can try to fool it, push it, cajole it, bully it, coax it, bribe it, and ignore it”.
    Best wishes.

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