Pete Walker’s Four Grieving Processes: Angering, Crying, Verbal Ventilating, and Passively Feeling

In this post, I write about four processes that deserve more attention and are applicable to regular life, to philosophy as something lived, and to recovery from Complex PTSD (Cptsd). We might, I think, refer to these “grieving” processes as “emotional processing” processes. Pete Walker, however, is employing the term “grieving” in a somewhat broad sense. It doesn’t only relate to death in the literal … Continue reading Pete Walker’s Four Grieving Processes: Angering, Crying, Verbal Ventilating, and Passively Feeling

Gratitude Shaming: Using the Idea of Gratitude to Harm

A few weeks ago I posed the question: How can gratitude go wrong? Today I’ll suggest some answers of my own. I’ll also bring in some observations by author and psychotherapist Pete Walker. Shaming (Wrongfully) Accusations of ingratitude, or assertions that one ought to be grateful (and is not), can be used to shame someone abusively or inappropriately. Statements such as “You should (just) be … Continue reading Gratitude Shaming: Using the Idea of Gratitude to Harm