As I am thinking to return home after 15 years of expat life in just a couple of years from now, I am eager to discover and share effective strategies for smoothly transitioning back and overcoming reverse culture shock.
Returning home after living abroad for many years can be indeed a challenging experience. While you might expect to seamlessly slip back into your old life, the reality is often quite different. Reverse culture shock can hit hard, leaving you feeling disoriented and out of place in what was once familiar. Here’s how you can conquer reverse culture shock and make your transition smoother.
Understanding Reverse Culture Shock
Reverse culture shock occurs when you return to your home country and find that things have changed—or that you have changed. The customs, lifestyle, and even the pace of life that once felt natural may now seem foreign. This feeling is normal and affects many repatriates.
Strategies to Overcome Reverse Culture Shock
Acknowledge Your Feelings – The first step in dealing with reverse culture shock is recognizing and accepting your feelings. It’s okay to feel frustrated, confused, or even sad. These emotions are a natural part of the readjustment process.
Stay Connected with Your International Community – Maintain relationships with friends you made abroad. They understand your experiences and can provide support as you navigate your return. Social media and video calls make it easy to stay in touch.
Reconnect with Old Friends and Family – While it’s important to maintain international friendships, don’t overlook the relationships you have at home. Even though I’ve never really lost connections with family and friends back home, reaching out to them regularly can offer a sense of continuity and help you feel grounded.
Create a Routine – Establishing a daily routine can provide structure and a sense of normalcy. Whether it’s a morning jog, a coffee ritual, or a weekly hobby, routines can help you feel more in control.
Explore Your Home Country – Approach your home country with the same curiosity you had while living abroad. Visit new places, try different foods, and engage in local events. This can help you rediscover the beauty and uniqueness of your homeland.
Seek Professional Support if Needed – If feelings of disorientation or depression persist, consider seeking help from a counselor or therapist. Professional support can provide strategies to cope with the emotional challenges of reverse culture shock.
Share Your Experiences – Writing a blog (like I am doing), creating videos, or simply talking about your experiences abroad can be therapeutic. Sharing your journey can also help others who are going through similar challenges.
Reverse culture shock would show your growth and the richness of your experiences abroad. Consider this phase of your life as an opportunity to integrate the best of both worlds—the wisdom gained from living abroad and the comfort of being home.
If you’ve recently returned home after living abroad, I’d love to hear your story! Share your experiences and tips for overcoming reverse culture shock in the comments below. Let’s build a community of support and understanding.
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Great Post. You’re right, there is so much focus on moving and living abroad, supporting the expat residents and employees, the returning ones are assumed to just be able to reintegrate. I think the experience of living and working abroad changes your perspective in ways you don’t even realise and we can make the mistake of assuming reintegration will be just like putting on an old pair of comfy slippers. Glad you put forward some guidance and suggestions.
Thank you Brenda, you caught the spirit of my post. Going back home might be very disappointing and I know I’ll be feeling puzzled because I am changed but also the others and the environment there is changed.
I was only abroad for a year but I hadn’t appreciated how much the experience had changed me. I came back a different person but if you’ve been away a long time, I can imagine there will be many changes and I can understand your puzzlement. However, I think being aware of your feelings, and giving yourself time to reflect/respond should help. (I hope)
Let’s see, I started to think about it and, as you say, I give myself time to reflect on that.
Such an interesting perspective to think about returning home. Our neighbors just moved back to England and this makes me want to check in on them.
Thanks for this post. And I imagine so much other wisdom will come from you as you consider moving home.
Thank you for commenting Wynne. It would be interesting to me to know about their experience, so I could build up my perspective.
If you were coming home to the United States, I’d say, wait a few more years! Many people here are trying to get out.
Oh I see your point Andrea I know a couple that just moved to Italy from the US! Thank you for commenting!