So You Don’t Need To
You don’t need to be cool, you’re already too hot to handle…
— Author of this article
“C’mon man, stay cool yo!”
Weird words, yet I used to pretend to be more like them.
I find it super unnatural to use such words, and I should be using this “yo” language even more often, as I’m a dumb teen. I used to disagree with the fact that I feel unnatural while pretending to be cool.
But no! I had convinced my mind that this is how I am!
Ha! I ask myself a question, “If you were this way, why weren’t you ‘cool enough’ right from the beginning?”
Why am I standing apart acting like a fragile mirror? Imitating what others do and fearing to be myself.
I’ve had this problem and it has troubled me. A lot. I tried to reshape, reform, make myself cooler just to be like others so that I’m not ignored.
The mind is awake all the time. It keeps running in the background, registering certain events and situations and analyzing them. Creating new beliefs and habit patterns.
It sees people being ignored as they aren’t “cool” enough.
It learns that “If you want to stay fit in this world, you’ve got to get cool!”
Henceforth, it starts imbibing all the idiotic qualities and practices that people are following.
The fear of not being cool (let’s just call it “coolophobia”), has made me do many thing s I never wanted to!
The mentality of catching up to the crowd’s standards is the only reason for the birth of coolophobia.
I have an example of a boy who had just entered high school and how everything seemed new to him.
The moment he entered 8th grade, he saw a sudden change. There was less carelessness and innocence in the jokes and incidents that happened around.
Things had drastically changed. Everything went a “level-up.”
The jokes we cracked, the behavior, the style, and almost everything. (Except the way people ate their food. Barbarous!)
Relations were made, rich and expensive “cool” fashionable stuff started being showed off. Movies were watched and discussed more than usual.
What was the boy supposed to do now? He felt like a generation behind his other so-called “cool” friends.
He came from a home where his spiritual and emotional quotient was taken care of. He didn’t come from a home where the parents let the child “try” to be cool.
He had spent his summer in a different way than the others.
But coolophobia had caught hold of him. He started planning step-by-step on how to nail down each and every cool category.
He started following more and more songs, started reading the hocus-pocus fiction books that everyone read. Tried to make his dumb hair look good (basically, even dumber).
He started using the “cool” and stupid language in front of everyone so that none of them could even think of him as an outdated personality.
He did everything, but he still felt left out. But he still tried, did everything he could. At last (huh! finally!), he gave up the pursuit of being cool and stayed as he used to.
Or let’s just say that he lived as time made him.
He got a haircut and started enjoying with his friends the way he liked. He started caring less about who thought what about him.
Then after a few months, he left school and started home schooling.
And the boy…(sob…sob…) was…me! (Sad piano music drops… 😢 😿)
(The emotional part… 👆)
That’s the point, I got agitated and failed that is why I switched back to normal.
What is the use of living if I can’t live without not actually being myself! It is useless!
My message to myself in the end was that using some modern and cool words like bro, dude, etc. won’t make me cool. Being me will make me more than cool.
It’ll make me more like me! Won’t that be great!
I’ve tried many cool antics. Like being cool by carrying a phone around with a little earpiece in it. Or just using my jackets in a more cool way or wearing hoodies.
Some people are cool just like that! They don’t need to get cool!
“WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY?”
Someday or the other, I have to die.
Why waste my life with such stupid practices of not being myself!?
Wasting all of my life by struggling against it’s nature. I have to drop this practice!
I felt good, I felt at peace.
To never imitate…
And therefore, I decided to check with myself…
And let my decision be one of a kind…
and follow it!
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22 thoughts on “One Screw Can’t Fit In Every Hole”
Omg right??!!@ be cool, be you OR BE HOT, BR WHAT THEY WANT. Like.. fucking hell?? Why not.. just.. be yourself. Because people will do whatever they do anyway. Take it or leave it.
I’m not hot for god so of course he spits me out of his mouth. But I don’t give a fuck. I don’t need god, I can be my own god. Or goddess. Because of gender and stuff.
This “coolophobia^ is peer pressure that makes people try to conform to popular trends.
Yes, Ma’am, you’ve got that right! Popular trends that include harmful habits such as drinking, smoking, etc. It is truly a disease, slowly turning into an epidemic.
Thanks for reading!
I think it’s awesome that you came to this realization at such a young age! 👍 💖
Yeah, thanks a lot! It was a tough fight against this very common social disease. And it wasn’t me who did it, it was God who lifted me out of this dirt pile…thanks for reading and taking the time to respond…
You’re very welcome. Your story was really well written. You have talent 😊
Be coool the way we are 👍makes us to live the life we like…
Sure! Why not?!
Unfortunately, this is the mindset for many young people. The pressure is real, for real for real!! But you did well by holding
Sorry😁…WP needs a edit feature for comments 🤔…as i was saying,You did good by realizing who you are early. “Do you boo-boo” is your response to everyone else, that’s cool.
Well, that’s true! Thanks!
Well, I don’t know how old you are now, but if it’s any consolation it’s taken me 49 years to find myself! Ridiculous but true. Thing is that cool is just one adjective (which is nearly always used to describe the young) and yet there are so many more that are so much more valuable. Kind, decent, honourable, hardworking etc etc. Cool is just about wanting to fit in, the others are true and good qualities. That said, I was exactly the same. For years! What a waste it was! I’m so happy that you’re happy now! Katie
If I could, I would give this comment 20 likes.
Thank you very much! It is so good to see people being happy in themselves! And by the way, finding yourself is more important. Not WHEN you find yourself. Be it 49 years or 56 or 98.5, finding yourself before death is what is important. And I heartily congratulate you on that!
Thanks for reading and commenting!
My pleasure, and sorry about the poor punctuation … I’m on a very bouncy train!
Watch out world, I’m me and I don’t care to change.
Right! That’s the spirit! We’re watching out already!
Actually I’m not all over the internet, so the world can hardly see me.
This is a wonderful post – “to yourself be true” – it’s not easy to do at any age. We all want to fit in, to be liked and accepted. I think you have real moxxy and that is VERY cool!
You are kindly welcome 🙂
Great perspective! If everyone would be uniquely themselves the world would be even more interesting! Great post, I enjoyed the read. Thanks!!!
Well, thanks to you for stopping by and leaving such an encouraging comment!