What kind of relationships are the best? The ones in which the two of them are the same? Or the ones in which the two of them are very opposite and they complete each other? Which ones have a better chance in long term and why?
We do like when we find someone who appreciates the same things we do and in the same time we do like people who are different and from which we can learn, but which one would be a better life partner? In my opinion, we have a better chance for a great relationship with someone similar with us. This is because being similar with someone will make you see all things in similar ways which will create similar thoughts and feelings about those things. Why is this important? Well, it’s important because having similar thoughts and feelings will make you have a better understanding about how the other thinks and feels. If you really understand (not on a cognitive level, but you feel you understand the other), you can be there for your partner and you can offer support to each other.
This applies both for the good things, but especially for the bad things. I’ll ask you this: how can you truly understand your partner getting through bad times if you don’t see those times as being bad? How could you understand his/hers thoughts and feelings if you have different thoughts and feelings about that particular situation (maybe even opposite thoughts and feelings)?
If you both like the same things, you’ll be able to truly enjoy yourself doing things together. If you both equal see a situation as being bad, you’ll be able to understand and support each other, but there is a risk. When something is really bad for both of you, you’ll be both down and it might be harder to get back up. The alternative might be that your partner doesn’t see that situation being that bad and you’ll feel weird and strange and this might get you even worse than before.
Looking in perspective, I think there are better chances for a relationship to be great and long-lasting if the partners are the same. The higher the similarity, the higher the chances.
What do you think and why?
One thought on “Similarity in a Relationship”
I think opposites can complement each other. But finding a common ground. Similarities clash usually.. we usually look for friends and people who can magnify our strengths and vice versa… If all the fingers of the hand are the same, it wont make a fist. But look for similar views of life in each other. Coz I have seen the most successful couples, they are so different yet same..