Our inner universe is so complex that we end up having different thoughts and emotions without knowing where the hell they come from. Obviously, that’s where frustrations come from, but what actually triggers them? What creates them? Is there anything we can do about them? Should we do something about them?
I believe we need to take into considerations where frustrations come from because they have a big influence over our lives. A big chunk of our negative emotions comes from our frustrations so if we understand them, we might be able to eliminate some of those emotions.
Frustrations and wishes
“In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition, related to anger, annoyance and disappointment, frustration arises from the perceived resistance to the fulfillment of an individual’s will or goal and is likely to increase when a will or goal is denied or blocked. There are two types of frustration; internal and external. Internal frustration may arise from challenges in fulfilling personal goals, desires, instinctual drives and needs, or dealing with perceived deficiencies, such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Conflict, such as when one has competing goals that interfere with one another, can also be an internal source of frustration and can create cognitive dissonance. External causes of frustration involve conditions outside an individual’s control, such as a physical roadblock, a difficult task, or the perception of wasting time.” – Wikipedia
So frustrations arise when something blocks us to do what we want to do. Sometimes we’re the blockers, that that’s a whole different topic. Now, what can we do about it? We want something and we get blocked. What’s the solution?
I think the solution is to try to see beyond the blocker. If we feel stuck, the frustrations get bigger and bigger, but if we can try to find a way to overcome it, the frustrations will slowly disappear. And as a bonus, the habit of seeing beyond blockers will start to develop and it will become stronger and stronger. Of course, that’s the ideal way to deal with frustrations. The first impulse would be to act aggressively because it’s easier compared to trying to handle the frustration. Emotions are always blockers.
How do you deal with frustrations?