Is the past still haunting you? How big is its influence? From time to time the past can screw us up. Big time. And it’s not because something happened in the present or because some past actions have some consequences in the present, but because we have memories. Did ever happen to you to feel good (or you think you feel good) and then everything goes to hell just because your mind did some associations and you remembered a f*cked up thing from your past? How helpful do you think that is for your present and for your future?
“But what can we do? We can’t control the way our mind works!” We can’t control how it works, but we can decide what it will do next. We can break that shitty thought pattern (I’ve mentioned some strategies here) by thinking about something else. The more we practice, the better we can become at it and this will help us control the influence shitty memories have over us.
We all did some things we’re not proud of (a gentle way to put things), but it’s not fair to let those things still haunt us. We’re wiser now and more experienced. We’re better than that so we can control it more. Our present self doesn’t deserve this. Maybe our past one does, but not the present one. They’re two different people so one of them doesn’t deserve to suffer because of the other.
From time to time it will happen. The shitty memories will have an influence over our present once again. But we can deal with that now because we’re stronger than before. We did it back then so we can do it now again. No dragon is that powerful unless we let it to be, but it’s ok… we’re only humans. We can face everything when we’re at our best, but we get knocked down when we have our guard down. It’s ok… thank God we’re humans.
How often do you get knocked down by your past?