The other day, I wrote a longer comment on a ‘Question of the Day’ post, all about confidence.
So I thought I’d say a couple of more words about this…
We are all familiar with classic situations where we know we MUST ‘be’ or ‘act’ confident (usually because we’re told so). Job interviews, dates, presentations blah blah blah
Even though we rationally know that we’re meant to be confident in situation XYZ, it still always remains a bit of challenge for us to actually be confident.
Here is what came up to my mind recently…
How am I supposed to be confident when I have nothing to feel confident for?
You see, the problem with confidence is that, many live under the delusion that confidence is gained through an unshakeable I-know-it-all attitude. Other’s think it comes from some sort of cosmic journey they need to go through or reading a ‘Top 10’ article on the Huffington post.
If we go back to the above question, this implies that the search for confidence is rather something coutnerintuitive.
The reality is, is that confidence comes from feeling comfortable about the fact that you’re not confident. (Read this twice)
Remember the first time you went into a job interview?
Odds are, your confidence was rather sh*t.
In this case, the key is to be okay and comfortable about the fact that;
(A.) You’re not confident.
and
(B.) That this is okay, because really, you don’t have anything to feel comfortable about in the first place.
The lesson here is, that there is pretty big power in being in peace with your weaknesses. Get comfortable with the fact that you have weaknesses and soft sides that may not be favorable to everybody.
You were not born to be confident by adjusting to everyone’s life, but to be confident by who you truly are.
Confidence comes from being okay with being imperfect.
Thanks for reading,