The world is big, right? Billions of people trying to do stuff. And most of those people have feelings. If it is to think about how those people feel, how often do you do it? And how much do you care about what people feel and do every day?
If you’re like most people, you probably don’t care that much. In fact, I’m sure it’s less than 10% of your time when you think and judge others. What takes more of your time is thinking about what those people think about you and this probably messes up your schedule, your wishes and your actions regarding those wishes.
How fair it is that less than 10% of the thoughts decides 50% of people’s actions? How fair is that 10% of the time creates 80% of the fears in the world? We fear so much about the fact others will harshly judge us that we forget they have lives too. They are people too and maybe that judgement is all for making themselves feel better because in the end, it’s all about the feelings. And instead of judging you, people have more important things to do with their lives, things like being afraid of your judgement.
It’s not fair and we don’t live in a fair world, but just think about this for a second. How helpful it is for someone’s life to take into consideration and be afraid about what others think to make themselves better? It’s like being afraid your neighbours make sex and planning your life based on that. Judgement is just a way for others to feel better about themselves. That’s it. There is no other way to look at this because giving advices based on own opinion cannot count as judgement.
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.” – Wayne Dyler
If we go back thinking about the time spent with judgement, it’s so much less than the amount of time fearing about that judgement. And we know it, but we still cannot help ourselves. We create our own dragons and we act based on what they decide for us. Yeah, we are that powerful.
How much of your time do you spend judging others? What about the amount of time you spend about fearing other people’s judgement?