It might sound tough, but we’re not flawless and we’re not perfect. Because we’re “only” humans. The thing is that from time to time we find it very hard to accept it when it comes to us, but we tend to be indulgent when it comes to other people. Yes, it is true and it can be very helpful to be tough with ourselves because it helps us raising our standards, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love ourselves when things don’t go as perfectly as we planned.
When we think about ourselves, we tend to set some impossible standards and when we don’t reach them, we start to blame ourselves in a non-constructive way, a thing that will lower our strength and self-esteem. We tend to reject, blame and hate the things we don’t like about ourselves, which will slowly extend other parts we have.
Sometimes we tend to try to find others to love those parts we reject and hate. This is not so good because if we show our hate towards those parts, how could others try to love them? We need to learn to love those “weak” parts of ourselves so we won’t need to try to find other people to love those parts. Is it easy? No, but we need to remember that we’re only humans. Sometimes we can do something to improve those weak parts so they won’t be weak anymore, but there are parts we cannot touch, which will stay the same. Since they are parts of ourselves, we need to accept them since we’re “stuck” with them for the rest of our lives.
Self-love is a challenge because we don’t love ourselves as a whole, and the parts we don’t love are affecting everything. Nobody is perfect, but too many are trying.
How do you deal with your “weak” parts?