Problems are everywhere and they are never-ending. And still… we try to dodge them as the devil dodges holy water. We somehow have the idea that being happy and fulfilled means we have no problems. I believe this is wrong. Being happy has nothing to do with the amount of problems we have, but our mind has a habit in relating the two and since problems are everywhere and never-ending, how can we be happy and fulfilled?
Of course, you cannot be happy if your car breaks down or you miss out the bus and you have to wait for another 15-20 minutes in brutal cold. You can’t be happy about the fact that some random person starts yelling at you for no f*cking reason and you can’t be happy if you get into a pointless fight with a significant person. It will happen and you know it. But that doesn’t mean it has to lower your overall state. Sure, you’ll be pissed in the beginning, but each problem is a moment in your life. If you get to see your life as a bunch of problems, the life itself is a problem, don’t you think? If that’s the case, how can you explain the fact that there are people extremely happy? They have problems too, but they choose to view those problems just as some things they have to deal with. Some things they have to do while living.
“But those people don’t have the problems I have! Mine are real and important! I need to focus on them!” Really? All problems are real and important, but the degree they’re affecting your life depends on your view about them. Those happy people have problems too, but they just don’t give them so much importance. And just to clarify: I’m not saying to ignore them or to procrastinate. I’m saying to deal with them as something you need to do. Just like breathing. Actually, treat problems like oxygen. Take it all in.
Just as you, I deal with problems daily. And when a new one appears, it’s just like a new breath. I try to expect everything and nothing in the same time and because of this, I’m not surprised when a new problem appears. I am pissed off in the beginning because I need to re-organize my schedule to fit in that new problem and I need to find the time and money (if it’s the case) to deal with it, but I have no choice. They are all around the corner. If you know that, you cannot be surprised when one jumps in front of you.
What’s your relationship with your problems?