Hi all,
I have been MIA for most of the recent months but I missed you all! How is everyone doing? I hope every one of you is feeling great and is enjoying this beautiful day!
The reason I was absent was due to some major problems in my personal life. I probably had some of the hardest weeks I had but now I started seeing all these weeks in a different light, which is what I want to talk about today.
I had the major issue about five weeks ago. The first two weeks were full of sadness and crying. I did not complain but I was sad. Really sad. Then, I started pulling it back together a bit, but not much. Then, it slowly started getting better and right now, I think I am in a good headspace. This allowed me to see what I went through in a different light: not in terms of hardship or suffering but about important life lessons that can make me a better person in the future.
Now I am thinking. Sometimes, we experience seemingly bad things that end up being really good for us eventually. For example, we can lose a friend due to a bad fight pattern. This teaches us how not to fight or it makes see our own weaknesses so we can improve. So, when we make friends next time, we know better how to behave. No matter how many times we are told how not to behave in a situation, sometimes we learn only when we make the “mistake”.
I am also thinking. Why does it have to be this way? Would it not be easier if all of the good behavior was injected into us and we did not have to go through hardship? It sounds great but the fact that it is not what is. So, I end up with the conclusion that we might have to go through some hard experiences to be able to reach good results. And honestly, somehow, once I am past those bad times and find some peace, I often find talking about the experience and my learnings a lot more satisfying than a regular experience. There is something extra satisfactory in this (I do not wish for bad experiences, of course, but I am just saying that is the state of affairs for me). It also helps me relate to people more, which is great because I love connecting with people.
How do you see the hard experiences in your life when you are going through them or when you are past them? Do you have any examples of your learnings in this way? What do you think about the necessity of humans going through such experiences to make new learnings at times? Let’s discuss.