Hi! Let’s talk about how we talk to ourselves today.
Internal talk is the communication that goes on within you. You encounter an unpleasant or challenging situation. What do you say to yourself? That is internal talk. This talk is vital in shaping our perspective. Let’s say you said something awkward in a meeting. Do you blame yourself and say you are stupid? Or do you say that this happens to everyone every now and then?
I had sort of a blaming internal talk for some time. When I noticed how much I was doing it, I decided to take action and turned it into a more accepting talk (mostly). This year, I noticed another type of internal talk I was doing. When I felt lazy or when I started getting into an emotional or thought loophole, I talked harshly to my brain. Let’s say something in my past started bugging me in my thoughts. Previously, I would just stay in the loophole and do nothing. Now, when that happened, I externally said to myself ‘Shut up and get up’ (or anything to that effect) in a harsh tone and it worked like magic! I would always get up and be able to focus on an actual task instead of getting lost. I never knew that being harsh could work for me and I had always been a fan of being kind to yourself. But maybe some situations are excusable in this aspect. Now I believe that what is happening here is that my brain can no longer find excuses for the situation. When someone tries to explain in detail why I need to do something, my brain finds loopholes in any logic established. If you directly say ‘Do it’, it cannot. I did so much and I feel so much happier with this method that I never knew was possible for me!
What is your internal talk like? Did you notice any changes, effects or patterns? Let’s talk about how we talk to ourselves!